Healthy self esteem vs. conceited?

Just me.

Fort Collins, Colorado

Oct 04, 2010 @ 00:44:46

What's the borderline between conceited and having a good self-esteem?

Does calling yourself smart and pretty make you stuck up? Or can that just be haters making one feel bad?

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Delta62

Natural asshole

manchester, United Kingdom

#2

Oct 04, 2010 @ 00:47:29

@Grasshopper Said

What's the borderline between conceited and having a good self-esteem?

Does calling yourself smart and pretty make you stuck up? Or can that just be haters making one feel bad?

Often for me its taking the piss out of myself most of the time which removes most of the ammuntion from their filthy mits and it also makes them look like idiots

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Bimbo

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, Monaco

#3

Oct 04, 2010 @ 00:54:52

@Grasshopper Said

What's the borderline between conceited and having a good self-esteem?

Does calling yourself smart and pretty make you stuck up? Or can that just be haters making one feel bad?

You only need to remind people of those things when they try and say you're not.

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GSnap

Over the Rainbow,

#4

Oct 04, 2010 @ 01:07:24

@Grasshopper Said

What's the borderline between conceited and having a good self-esteem?

Does calling yourself smart and pretty make you stuck up? Or can that just be haters making one feel bad?

Well, a healthy self esteem means you already feel pretty and smart, and there is no need to gloat about it or say it outloud. Does that make sense?

Usually if someone has to go around saying these things, they really don't feel it deep down.

Now if you were to say to someone "i think i am pretty" i don't think that makes you conceited. It is really in the delivery IMO of how you say it, and the MOTIVATION for why you said it....

That's the key. The motivation for what makes a person have to say it outloud. Sometimes it makes perfect sense other times it sounds like a gloat.

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Grasshopper

Just me.

Fort Collins, Colorado

#5

Oct 04, 2010 @ 01:13:39

@GSnap Said

Well, a healthy self esteem means you already feel pretty and smart, and there is no need to gloat about it or say it outloud. Does that make sense?

Usually if someone has to go around saying these things, they really don't feel it deep down.

Now if you were to say to someone "i think i am pretty" i don't think that makes you conceited. It is really in the delivery IMO of how you say it, and the MOTIVATION for why you said it....

That's the key. The motivation for what makes a person have to say it outloud. Sometimes it makes perfect sense other times it sounds like a gloat.

Hmmm I dunno. People I've been around keep calling people who think good of themself snobby. And they keep bringing people down. So that kinda makes it seem like saying ANYTHING good good bout yourself makes you a gloater or whatever. And some say good things about people.

I dunno. This is all new to me. I don't know WHAT to believe or say...

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Edited: October 04, 2010 @ 01:14

Delta62

Natural asshole

manchester, United Kingdom

#6

Oct 04, 2010 @ 01:15:26

@Grasshopper Said

Hmmm I dunno. People I've been around keep calling people who think good of themself snobby. And they keep bringing people down. So that kinda makes it seem like saying ANYTHING good good bout yourself makes you a gloater or whatever. And some say good things about people.

I dunno. This is all new to me. I don't know WHAT to believe or say...

want a hug?

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Bimbo

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, Monaco

#7

Oct 04, 2010 @ 01:16:14

@Grasshopper Said

Hmmm I dunno. People I've been around keep calling people who think good of themself snobby. And they keep bringing people down. So that kinda makes it seem like saying ANYTHING good good bout yourself makes you a gloater or whatever. And some say good things about people.

I dunno. This is all new to me. I don't know WHAT to believe or say...

It's new to you? Where have ya been for 19 years?

lol.

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Grasshopper

Just me.

Fort Collins, Colorado

#8

Oct 04, 2010 @ 01:18:28

@Bimbo Said

It's new to you? Where have ya been for 19 years?

lol.

It IS new to me. My people (in person) only respect down to earth people, and hate snobs. So I just have no idea. lol

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GSnap

Over the Rainbow,

#9

Oct 04, 2010 @ 01:18:55

@Grasshopper Said

Hmmm I dunno. People I've been around keep calling people who think good of themself snobby. And they keep bringing people down. So that kinda makes it seem like saying ANYTHING good good bout yourself makes you a gloater or whatever. And some say good things about people.

I dunno. This is all new to me. I don't know WHAT to believe or say...

No, now what you speak of is different. There is a certain type of people who HATE anyone who actually seems happy with themselves. Those people have issues with their own low self esteem. That isn't what I was referring to.

I think you should be yourself and as long as your words or actions are not intentionally said to hurt someone else than whomever has a problem with it can get over it.

There are people, women moreso than men, who can't stand any other women who are comfortable with who they are because they themselves are not comfortable with who they are.

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Edited: October 04, 2010 @ 01:20

Grasshopper

Just me.

Fort Collins, Colorado

#10

Oct 04, 2010 @ 01:19:14

And is it normal to feel physical pain just by trying to think good of myself?

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Delta62

Natural asshole

manchester, United Kingdom

#11

Oct 04, 2010 @ 01:19:32

@Grasshopper Said

And is it normal to feel physical pain just by trying to think good of myself?

good question

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DorkySupergirl

, Canada

#12

Oct 04, 2010 @ 01:19:55

I think the difference is...

If someone starts a thread and asks if people think they are attractive. If one responds with "I think I am attractive" that is a normal answer and reflects positive self esteem.

If one answers "don't hate me because I am beautiful" and really means it, that is being conceited.

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Bimbo

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, Monaco

#13

Oct 04, 2010 @ 01:20:38

@Grasshopper Said

And is it normal to feel physical pain just by trying to think good of myself?

Just be normal. If anyone has a prob with that, give them a hack in the fork.

lol.

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GSnap

Over the Rainbow,

#14

Oct 04, 2010 @ 01:21:04

@DorkySupergirl Said

I think the difference is...

If someone starts a thread and asks if people think they are attractive. If one responds with "I think I am attractive" that is a normal answer and reflects positive self esteem.

If one answers "don't hate me because I am beautiful" and really means it, that is being conceited.

And there you have described the difference of motivation for the words that I tried to convey in my post.

The delivery and motivation of how it is said makes a huge difference.

Good example.

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GSnap

Over the Rainbow,

#15

Oct 04, 2010 @ 01:21:45

@Bimbo Said

Just be normal. If anyone has a prob with that, give them a hack in the fork.

lol.

Well and then there is that.

Or if they get too nasty a good head shove in the loo can work.

Ok I jest.

(well...maybe heehee)

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Edited: October 04, 2010 @ 01:21

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