This is just so wrong on all levels

@white_swan53 Said

My daughter-in-law's sister, just gave birth to her first child yesterday .
So what's wrong with that ? She is a young woman in her early 20's, her live in boyfriend is in his early 30's and he is a two times convicted child molester. The new mom has spent her entire pregnancy defending him , saying all the things you would expect to hear from a person living in denial.
He's paid his debt , he's not the same guy , he was younger then , he's older now, I'll keep a close watch , etc....
I have met my daughter-in-law's sister one time and that was at my son's wedding , I've never met the ' boyfriend' but I have been hearing my daughter-in-law trying to talk sense to her sister over the phone and I have heard all the 'details' after the phone calls.
I ask my daughter-in-law if the guy has had any sort of therapy or counseling and the answer her sister gave is " he's paid his debt and he's not the same guy he was back then. " That sounds like a "NO" to the question of therapy .
The new baby is no blood relation to me but that doesn't stop me from worrying about the child's safety .
I realise that the young mother has made her decision to trust that man by living with him and having a child with him .
Am I over reacting ?

@Tar Said

technically, her response is accurate. He has paid his debt to society so he "should" be allowed to continue on with a normal life. The question then emerges of how accurate is law in reflection of biological reality

So me, personally.. I would ask or find out about the circumstances of the conviction and case.

What was the age of the child in question
What was the gender
What was the relationship
Was it more than one occasion or was it something that happened only once

Questions like these can help shed light on the true state of the person at that point in time. The case could possibly have been something so different as in he was convicted of molesting a child when he was 19 and the "child" was 15. That kind of conviction is a far cry from a 45 year old man sodomizing a 1 year old boy.

Laws are "usually" passed with good intention.. but we all know where the path of good intentions lead

@white_swan53 Said

My daughter-in-law's sister, just gave birth to her first child yesterday .
So what's wrong with that ? She is a young woman in her early 20's, her live in boyfriend is in his early 30's and he is a two times convicted child molester. The new mom has spent her entire pregnancy defending him , saying all the things you would expect to hear from a person living in denial.
He's paid his debt , he's not the same guy , he was younger then , he's older now, I'll keep a close watch , etc....
I have met my daughter-in-law's sister one time and that was at my son's wedding , I've never met the ' boyfriend' but I have been hearing my daughter-in-law trying to talk sense to her sister over the phone and I have heard all the 'details' after the phone calls.
I ask my daughter-in-law if the guy has had any sort of therapy or counseling and the answer her sister gave is " he's paid his debt and he's not the same guy he was back then. " That sounds like a "NO" to the question of therapy .
The new baby is no blood relation to me but that doesn't stop me from worrying about the child's safety .
I realise that the young mother has made her decision to trust that man by living with him and having a child with him .
Am I over reacting ?

@JR_Sanford Said

NO, you are NOT over reacting... you are concerned for the child's safety. One thing though, the child should NEVER be left alone with this Guy... EVER. That's my spin and I'm sticking to it.

J.R.

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Are pedophiles and other sex offenders allowed to live with and raise their own children?


Mine is an answer from the perspective of a Court Appointed Special Advocate (CASA); we work with children who are abused (both sexually and physically), neglected, and abandoned. In no way is this a definitive answer.

The short answer is yes. Convicted or not, once the parent has served their time, they are allowed to return to their families and live with their children, even if the child/ren are present that were abused.

Even if the parent is not convicted, just the fact that a case was brought to trial meant there was compelling evidence that there was abuse in the home. No prosecutor would waste their time (or the county's money) pursuing a case that didn't have a high possibility of conviction. These parents return home also.

When these parents do not return home, they are still granted visitation rights, which can give them opportunities to abuse their children. Sometimes Child Protection Services (CPS) is involved and requires supervision, but not always. They are limited to caseloads and observations which may lead them to think all is well.

In very obvious abuse or neglect cases, a child may be removed from the home and placed in foster care until the trial date; if the parent is convicted, the children will stay in foster care until the parent serves time (if that is the single parent), remain at home with the other parent, or age out of the system. In sexual abuse cases (most of mine), the girls were rarely removed from the home because incest can be much more difficult to prove while questioning the child. Fathers were much more savvy about answering what the police and prosecutors wanted to hear to avoid arrest. I use the term fathers because most abusers (I think the rate is over 90%) were men

@bob_the_fisherman Said

No, you are not over reacting. It is a sign of basic decency in a human being that they show concern for the welfare of a child. The innocence of childhood is a valuable thing that ought to be protected by those of us that have lost ours, and know the world is not always a nice, safe, happy place. Children should be allowed to live in a nice, safe, happy world, and it is our job to create it.

That said, I would find out to what level this guy is a danger. For example, precisely how or why is this guy defined as a child molester/sex predator?

There is a difference between being 18/19 in a relationship with a 15 year old, than there is in being 45 with a 4 year old, but, at least in Australia, both people end up on a sex offenders register. He may not be a threat to a child. However, if he is, my method of dealing with it would be... unpleasant, and may violate one or two laws.