Hanging onto "loved ones" for the... ahem, inheritance...

Oh yeh, there are a whole lot of people out there -- who are doing everything they can -- to hang on to a relationship -- because they know if they blow it -- they might be disinherited.

Now we can lie, and we can deny it, but we know deep down in our hearts -- sometimes -- that we kiss the a** of those who hold the purse strings.

You don't have to answer, or you can blow off some steam here.

Are you dealing with this? Kissing Daddy or Mommies ass, sister or brothers ass, because to tell them what you think -- might mean losing the bundle -- in the future...

If you are in this situation -- just freaking admit it.

How does it feel? How does it make you feel?

We, here, at TFS, tend to speak the truth, eventually. Speak -- if this slightly applies to you. (You can always edit and delete -- later). Blow off some steam. It pissed me off -- to find myself in that situation.

Thankfully I have a good relationship with pretty much all of my family. I don't think I'd fall out with them, but if I did wouldn't hang on to the relationship for the sake of inheritance. I'm not one of those people who can easily get on with someone who I dislike.

You are pretty lucky to have a good relationship with your loved-ones who might hold some hold over you monetarily -- so you might never have to kiss their ass, or maybe you are strong enough you might be able to go it alone -- without their help --- but one thing I do know, is I know a LOT of people -- who kiss the hands that feed them.

I'd like to see if there is anyone out there who would have guts enough -- to admit -- they know exactly what I'm talking about.

I completely cut my family off (apart from my mum and sis)and I haven't spoken to any of them since 2003, I cut them off because I slaved to care for my grandparents and got no help from the 'family', when my grandparents passed away suddenly they all came out of the woodwork looking for inheritence

Quite funny when they found out there wasn't anything of real value but it didn't stop then ripping my grandparents home apart looking for stuff worth money.

All I wanted was my grandparents wedding picture and they wouldn't hand it over...not even a photo copy

I told the person that 'holds the purse strings' to kiss my a** after my grandmother passed away in 1993. he , my uncle, inherted the whole kit and kaboodle , meaning the land , the livestock, all the equiptment and all personal belongings of my grand parents. Which was only right because he was the oldest son and my dad had passed away in 1990 , my granddad passed away in 1991 and my grandother in 1993.my uncle started acting like I was suppose to work 7 days a week with no pay at all he figured he was a bit more special then grand dad and I should feel honered or some such bulls*** to be working for his ass,,, . So I quit and went to town for a job, He came to me 'hat in hand' asking me to come back and help out because he needed the help. I still work on the ranch, but now it's for wages instead of as 'part of the family' like it was when my grand parents were still running things.

I'm also lucky in that I have a good relationship with all of my family!

I am also lucky that I have a good relationship (though in no way purfect) with most of my family. However i think that if you just hang on for the money, your bad relationship will affect your whole life. In the long run its not worth it. For example my great grandfather was a successful builder. Him and my grandfather didn't get on at all but my grandfather kept on working with him. However in his forties my grandfather became clinically depressed and had to quit work. He was not able to work after that. In the end he probs got less money by inherintence than he would have got going his own way and working till he was 65. Also if you are not waiting for the inherintence it gives you drive to make a success by yourself (i don't have to worry all my inheritence is in trust till i'm 35

I don't expect an inheritance from my family, since they are not exactly well-off.

My in-laws family have been frugal all their lives and have saved. There is probably the potential for a reasonable inheritance. You know what? My wife and I told them to spend it if they want to. Would we like it? Hell yes. Would we turn it down or give it away? Hell no. But we love the family, not their money. We don't want them to scrimp just to make an inheritance.

No one holds anything over me, I dont let it matter to me what I will get or not
I think the problem is when you want something and let that bother you,I enjoy all I am,and all I have,and work hard for it.
I am close with my family, but never think of what will be mine,and honestly dont care.

I,ve had relatives pass away, their family would start argueing about the will before they were even in the ground. People can be so unhearted when it comes to situations such as this.But what I don,t understand is some relatives of the deceased will not even go around a relative for years until the day of the funeral, then they say the old ( Phrase ) we never had the time. But these same people find time to go and listen to the reading of the will( Kinda selfish and greedy isn,t it ).

i kiss no1s a** i just let them kiss mine lol

but i do keep mummy and daddy sweet as i no if i want something il always get it

Enjoy Life to the full. Never no when its going to end. Can't take it with you. etc.

my family's not rich enough to kiss their a** for money... just my grandpa is... when he dies my mom will give my brother and sisters and me some of that... he doesnt even really know who i am though, so theres not as much ass-kissing as confused hello's there...

ive never had to 'fake' being nice to any of my family (well my brothers maybe lol ), we all get along pretty well. i dont even know (or want to know) what inheritance im due if anything happens, i love my mums mum and dad just as much as my dads even though my dads have a nice big house and are probably sitting on a pile of cash, if i get something, great! but im not purposefully being nice to anyone just for that reason. to be honest a personal gift with sentimental value in an inheritance (i got a locket and chain off my great aunt which means the world to me as it reminds me of her but its practically worthless) would be worth alot more to me than any pile of money.

Money is good; Respect is better. You can't buy respect you can only buy people to act respectful.