"Are You Talking To Me???"  PerlaDelMar
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New York, New York
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People really make me laugh. I post in the forums, it's what I do. If I wanted to date someone, I would do it offline. Was on another site the other day, and someone was sending me messages. Not there to date, just for the forums. Anyway, I post and log in somewhere else. I come back, and he sends me a message saying that it doesn't seem that I am all that interested in him...REALLY??? Who messaged who? Anyway, I politely thanked him for what 'conversation' we did have, and good luck in his search. He leaves his phone number. 
I call a day and a half after he gives it to me, we have a conversation for 2 hours over the phone, and I shut it down for the evening. The conversation was interesting, and he has a sense of humor. Before he hangs up, he tells me not to be a stranger. I texted him this morning a picture of my cat because he is thinking of taking him, since I can no longer keep him, and add a message. He sends me a message on the other site. WTF? This makes no sense at all, since we are now talking over the phone. I never asked for this, and after I give in and call him, he decides to be an a** and message me somewhere else. Again, really?
It gets on my nerves that people, as old as they are, grieve me with petty bulls***. I am not needy, and it is not written on my face that I need someone that bad that I want to get involved with idiotic phone games. Don't get that. He did tell me that he had a stalker-type chick following him around, and at first, he did like the phone calls until she went psycho on him. Um, I don't spend free time blowing up anyone's cell. While I do show initiative and send out A call, I won't be on there needing validation by hoping he picks up on the 13th call. I am glad we didn't go out anywhere.
This is the reason why I do not bother with people sometimes. If I wanted to be with a rodeo clown, I would still be with my ex-husband. | |
Electric_Banana
| I don't think he's playing teeny bopper games, Perla. He's probably trying to get a leash on himself so that he doesn't pester you any further but his thoughts keep going back to you hence the silly intermittent pop ups here and there.
Just ignore him so that he can kill that interest and redirect it elsewhere where it's probably much more needed.
A lot of people tend to be like this throughout our life but we often times go barking up the wrong tree.
I had a few girls back in High School that chased me. It wasn't that they were silly - There was someone at that time they needed to find but their little targeting sensors were off track and landed on me.
On a deeper level I knew I was heading into territory that they really didn't need to follow me into and I managed to constructively 'shoo' them away. |
PerlaDelMar
| | You are so right. Just a moment ago, he sent me a message on the site. I ignored and deleted the message, no response. It is irritating, especially when you are dealing with a person who is your age. Why do people even bother giving out their numbers if they will message you in other places? It doesn't make any sense, and it makes people all the more untrusting. |
Demented
| Perla,your first mistake was answering him,your second was calling him.he'll now more than likely haunt every chance he gets.
This isn't good I know and quite frankly his intentions may be good,but I'm sure we all know chances are they may not be also.
I suppose the only avenue left to is get really nasty with him or just change your number. |
Leon
| | Yeah, that took me by surprise as well. If you're not interested in the guy, why did you call him? |
PerlaDelMar
| That is just the whole point, Demented. He is not calling me. I am not hung up over that, I have other things to do. It just makes no sense to message someone, give them your number, and then not respond when they actually send you a message. Not saying that he answer in that instant, it is just bad business to ignore any message a person sends you, and start messaging a person in the other place. I have no problem with that, IF I do not have any cell number. I never give my number out, usually I get numbers.
If I am not 'feeling' that person, I will not use the number. If I am done with the chatting, and they give me the number, then it moves off the screen to a cell call. It takes off from there. I have made many friends like this and they are from all over. This person lives in the next county, so it is like living down the street. I have not answered any more messages from him. I just don't like my time being wasted, and I am too old for nonsense. |
PerlaDelMar
| @Leon Said 
Yeah, that took me by surprise as well. If you're not interested in the guy, why did you call him?
We were messaging back and forth on the other site as friends. He sent me a message about not getting a response back, and that was because I was answering the previous answer and leaving to take care of something else. I saw that he messaged me, and I would respond. So that is when he left his number. He is an animal lover, and said he would take my cat. I can no longer care for him, so since he has rescued 3 dogs and a cat, he said that he would take him off my hands. |
PerlaDelMar
| @Leon Said
Yeah, that took me by surprise as well. If you're not interested in the guy, why did you call him?
I also sent him a pic of Buttons, my cat. He is not really my cat, but my sister's. I cannot keep him any longer, and said person offered to take Buttons. |
Leon
| | Everybody is different Perla. Some people like to communicate via multiple means and switch back and forth between them all the time, some are more comfortable over the phone, some more comfortable via written communication, sometimes it depends on what he/she is doing at the time. I think you are reading into all of it a bit too much. If this is all he is doing to act "immature" in your eyes or "playing games" then you have nothing to worry about. |
PerlaDelMar
| | You are correct. I mean, I get the whole face palm thing, which is new to me, and this was one of those moments----plus a SMH. I feel fairly young at heart, but stuff like this makes me feel like I was the mother of a 41 year old, do these things really need to be explained to one? I ignored the last message. I am like that, don't answer, and then act as if nothing happened, letting them drift into nothing. |
Belcher
| You werernt there to date so whyd you call him at all? Shoulda known it would be weird s*** coming down the boulevard.  |
I made my TFS |
Interesting....
February 05, 2012 @ 02:59:35 am
