@Eaglebauer Said 
I feel you...
I often have to project myself into one of my kids' place when I'm talking to them about something and think back to when I was fifteen and ask myself if I'd "get it." And granted, sometimes the answer is yes, but sometimes it isn't. I'd have been pissed at my dad when I was that age if he'd said "Actually, yes I
do know what's best for you." But I find myself biting my tongue from saying that very thing now.
OMG, I know! And I fork over a lot of understanding, with gentle 'howevers.' My son is 15 right now, and being very rebellious, and making some pretty poor choices. He's not even my biological son, and so much is reflected! It's the mother's curse, I tell ya! "When you have kids, I hope they're just like you!" Ha!
@chaski Said
You might be surprised how much they, our children, actually get.
The bottom line is that we, metaphorically, give them the bicycle and show them how to ride....but sooner or later you have to let go of the bike and let them ride, or you both fall down and get injured.
With parenting it is, again metaphorically, a never ending flow of
bicycles each with varying degrees of difficulty, importance and "danger".
And then someday, perhaps many years in the future, your son or daughter says or does something...and you know that you got it right...if you are really lucky, they turn to you some day and tell you what a great parent you were.
You know, in your heart, that you were flying by the seat of your pants the whole time...but it still feels good when they tell you otherwise.
I totally hear that, I try to give my kids more credit than I was given, and most of the time they live up to it... But when they don't... well, they REALLY don't! lol
All I can do is my best and hope I'm not screwing them up for life.
Jan 31, 2015 @ 05:07:05
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