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ayr, United Kingdom
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My ex and me bf broke up two weeks ago!
And let me tell u all the things heand the last time i saw him he told me that "when peolple break up it hurts like hell and that he just needed time". is he tring to make out that iv got no feelings? and then asked me why i waited till his x had gone till i came to talk to him! i didnt even no who she was! is he tring to say am jealous! i dont think so! then he stormed off!an i havent seen him since! | |
alysedai
| | I'd say you just have to distance yourself from him as much as possible. If that means avoiding situations where he might be, you may have to do that...but you'll never get better if you keep seeing him. Believe me, I've been there and done that. |
brainfarmer
| | seems to be him that has the problem. im never sure how to deal with anger appropriately. i'd tend to avoid some-one were i had a choice till the hurt and anger had settled down a bit. |
smurf
| but why should i lose my social life cus hes a nutcase!!!!
its quite funny if u think about it! hes still controlling me a bit!
do u think it was my fault? |
alysedai
| | no, it's not your fault. But in order for you to get better, you may have to cut out on your social life for a bit. Because if you don't make that move, you'll still be angry and that will piss your friends off, and then they won't want to hang out with you anyway. You can also talk to your friends and let them know that you don't want to be in the same venue as he is. It's okay. Small sacrifices now will make up for later. You definitely just need some "you" time to work through your anger. Being in a ituation where you see him on a regular basis will NOT do you any good. |
smurf
| @alysedai Said no, it's not your fault. But in order for you to get better, you may have to cut out on your social life for a bit. Because if you don't make that move, you'll still be angry and that will piss your friends off, and then they won't want to hang out with you anyway. You can also talk to your friends and let them know that you don't want to be in the same venue as he is. It's okay. Small sacrifices now will make up for later. You definitely just need some "you" time to work through your anger. Being in a ituation where you see him on a regular basis will NOT do you any good.
thers only 1 venue in my area! i live in the middle of noware!
i dont want to make it look like hes affected me! cus then hes won! besides its him thats got th problem with seein me! im fine as long as he dosnt start hasseling me again! |
smurf
| | i feel like i should try an go on as normal an show that im back 2 my happy self! and show him that he dosnt have an effect on me! does any1 think this is the rite thing to do? |
brainfarmer
| | yep its difficult but i'd agree that a short term sacrifice of social life is better than a big time massive row at a party or gathering of folk. in my experience break ups jealousy (from one side or both sides of a split) with alcohol mixed in can lead to really bad s***. you have to balance how you feel with everything else. |
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Letting go of anger!
October 24, 2006 @ 01:40:07 pm
