@unicorn Said
We don't know the exact circumstances of this case, but it could be that the child is forced to call the stepmum, mum.By force I mean not talking or responding to the child if she does not call her by 'mum' etc.
We also do not know if the ex husband and new wife call the real mum names etc.
I agree taking it to court is a bit excessive, but I totally understand why someone would feel the need to, sad thing is even though the court can rule in her favour they cannot police the outcome.
I don't think it's about ego either. I think it's about respect,would you have liked your child calling someone else Dad that badmouthed you and tried to pretend you did'nt exist let alone calling you a bad father?
If there is mutual respect then all's fair, but if as has been reported an agreement was reached upon the bio parents splitting that no others were to called mum or dad, then how can this be considered anything but spite and deliberate denegration and hurt upon the mother.
You seem to be leaping to a lot of assumptions, I didn't read any of that in the story.
You know my attitude to parenting, and that I have an adopted son as well as two "naturals", so please accept that I will ALWAYS put the child's happiness, security, and sense of self-worth first, above all other considerations. If life had lead me down a different path, I WOULD have accepted my kids calling another man Dad, as long as he WAS behaving as a proper Dad to them, I faced that thought and prepared for it before I was given custody. I have known many happy children who have prattled on about their collection of parents, and most of them were/are quite comfortable with having TWO Dads or Mums, or BOTH. That's hardly RARE these days, but how often do you hear of
utter tripe like THIS hitting the courts?
I have only EVER known ONE person who would pull a stunt like that, my ex-sister in law, she dragged my brother into court so often over such trivialities that she became the first person in the state to be LEGALLY BANNED from initiating court-proceedings, she was deemed a "Vexatious Litigant"!
My brother threw a PARTY!
AND invited HER!
Strangely, she didn't turn up, must have been busy or something!