It hurts too much!

My husband moved out on my birthday. We were really working things out and he was going to move back in, until he met Denise. One night, i was sleeping in bed with him and the next night he was banging the s*** out of someone else. He says they're perfect for eachother. We'd been together for three years and this is the hardest thing I've ever had to do. How do you get over it? What can you do? It's only beed two days since he told me, but i'm falling apart, and I don't know how to deal with it. I love him so much. We had so many great plans for the future. And now what do I do? It hurts so much!

That is way harsh. I hope that you are feeling ok. DOnt do anything stupid, OK.

Now as to punishing your husband.
You know you should make sure that you know where you stand. IF you have feelings for him still dont do the following:

Burn his car
sue for damages
tell his new girl all about his bad habbits
slap him
tell him that you have a new boy friend

yeah. also apart from that
just remember that all of us at TFS are on your side

well obviously you should know you're too good for him..and no matter what you think you deserve someone better...i have learnt this from the millions of movies i watch..and you mite think im too young to give you this advice but you're gonna find someone better for sure...you have to be patient..and try meeting new people..hope i helped

I dont think revenge is a good idea. If it was the other way around do you think you would deserve an act of revenge upon you?

Cut your losses and move on. Do the mourning bit for as long as you have to then tey a couple of one night stands before you look for someone serious.

She wasn't talking about revenge, she's talking about how to move on.

It takes time to get over something like that. But you definitely deserve better. He doesn't sound like a great guy. I really hope you are OK. Spend time with friends. Vent your anger about it and try to have fun and move on, slowly but surely. I hope things get better

I was refering to the next posters comments.

they will..you dont need to worry about that...

The best way to get over it is to just get out there find who you are again and try and have fun.
Drag out as many friends as you can and just go wild.
He's an a** and doesn't deserve you, yes I do know how much it hurts but NEVER, NEVER let it show to him. Act as though you really couldn't care less, make him feel like the guilty pig that he is and be thankful it's only 3 years.
You will be fine with time I promise

Thanks for all the replies. This is just so hard. I'm not one for revenge, although i've been entertaining the idea of killing Denise The hardest part is that when he left the first time, he said he just needed space, time to be alone. And now, he hasn't spent a day without this girl. He was my life, so now that he's gone, I don't really have one. I don't have any friends, or anyone to talk to. Only him. I hope this gets easier, soon.

It may be hard and yes I fully relate but it does take 2 to tango hun. I had my kids to keep me going but if you have no friends get out there and get some, go to night school, do something you've always wanted to do.
It does get easier