Advice on a complicated/strange situation please.

@evababy1 Said

This does sound really weird. I think you should forget about this guy. I know you want answers and you want to know why he was there that night, but he never tried calling you or anything. So I think you shoukd just forget about him. Stay with your bf and let this other dude go.

@Bitty Said

"he's just no that into you", if he was, regardless of situations, he would have been vocal and let you know, when there is an actual connection it's not something you can ignore or turn off or just walk away from. now he just sounds like he is stalking you, i know it's mysterious and oddly sexy but i'd watch it. either way i think you need to re-evaluate the relationship you're in now

@sunandsurf13 Said

Hopefully he hasn't lost your phone number.
But if he calls you, what are you going to do?
I agree with Bitty, you should re-evaluate your relationship with your current man.
I would also be intrigued.......but just remember you know very little about this guy and have perhaps, put him up on some sort of attraction pedestal. He may not deserve to be there.

@SansMorale Said

Perhaps this was all just bad-timing.
It's best to leave the motorbike man and continue your relationship with your boyfriend.

@tickleme Said

What got me the most is starting his car and driving around the car park to see where we were and then beeping a couple of times, he is pretty cocky i think.

@sunandsurf13 Said

Well he also knows your boyfriend. Technically, the beep could have been for him.
Attraction is hard to ignore I agree.
Hmm, do keep us posted, won't you?

@tickleme Said

A couple years ago i spoke on 2 occassions to a man whom i felt an incredible connection with.

I met him at my bf's work place, this guy was a customer there.

Wont go into great detail but there was definate chemistry there. He was flirting with me and paying me compliments but the conversation went a lot deeper than that, we really connected on a level that i cant explain.

He did try getting my number (long story) and he did (not from me, through someone else) but never ended up calling me. He knew i was with someone (only had a bf but lied and said i was married, dont ask me why!!!!) and he also told me he had started dating someone, but it wasnt serious.

I never saw him again and made many enquiries trying to get in contact with him (old place he worked at etc) and ended up getting his phone number but by the time i had the guts to call it it had been disconnected.
I spent to much time and effort trying to find him that in the end i said i was going to leave it in the hands of fate and destiny, if it's meant to be i would see him again, and if not, well i'd have to forget him.

While ive never forgotten him or the connection we shared, i gave up looking for him and moved on with my life.

I havent seen him in 2 years and gave up about a year ago looking for him, when a month ago he turns up at bf's work again (as a customer) telling him he has moved about an hours drive away.

Bf knows i know this guy and told me that he had passed his work place, my heart skipped a beat but i didnt think anything of it.

Anyway mean time i just got my learners drivers license and i am learning to drive, so bf the other night took me at 10pm at night to a shopping centre car park where i can learn to drive so there wont be many cars around.

As i parked the car i looked next to me and there was this car i didnt recognise (he had a motor cycle before) and being night time, the windows tinted darkly and the strong lights on the shopping centre car park i couldnt see who it was. But he parked side by side to my car and then took off, a few seconds later Bf said to me "Thats motor bike man" and i was like wtf is he doing in a shopping centre at this hour of the night thats over an hours drive from where he lives.

Anyone i continued to learn to drive/park etc around the car park and i noticed he had parked his car vertically over 3 car parks so he could see where we were parked instead of parking horizontally like the car park is.

I spent about 10 - 15 mins driving around there and he just sat in the car 'watching'

Then we went onto another side of the car park where he couldnt see us, bf and i were having a cold drink and talking about my driving when i see him driving around the car park, came closer to our car and beeped twice and then left.

Now i find all this rather strange and odd. My first question is what was he doing there? And was he there 'stalking' me in a way?

I dont know what to think at the moment, it has stirred a lot of emotions in me that i thought i had gotten past.
I dont know what he is doing back

ANy advice anyone please????

@loveis Said

Well, it's not like he knew you were going to be there.

As for his being there, it could have been for any number of reasons..

You said yourself there was a strong connection between the two of you; perhaps he still feels it as well, and simply wanted to observe you and your boyfriend (who he thinks is your husband, thanks to your fib), in action, to try and get a 'feel' for how the two of you get along.

Perhaps he's just as puzzled by his feelings; but doesn't feel free to act on them as he thinks you are married..

..Interesting to me why you'd say you are married when you are not..
could it have been a sub-conscious desire to protect yourself from the possibility of becoming closer with this guy?

..if so, then the question is "why"?

It's been my experience, when I've done things like that, our gut senses things before our minds have a change to congnate what it is that might be bothersome about the person/ or situation...

I'd try to figure out why you told this little untruth..maybe then you might find some understanding.

@tickleme Said

Easier said than done.