What do you do with that psychotic - stalker ex boyfriend/girlfriend?

Alright, here's the story...

My girlfriend has this crazy-stalker ex that won't leave her alone. He calls her, text messages her, e-mails her, writes letters to her, follows her around school, and he even shows up at her house sometimes, and he gets other people involved to find out things for him or to try to talk to her for him and anything else you can imagine. Now she's told him numerous times that she doesn't want anything to do with him and that she doesn't want to speak to him or see him and doesn't want anything to do with him. She's told him that she has moved on. She even found out that he did this to his other ex girlfriend, and she tried everything to get rid of him. She got her two brothers to beat the crap out of him, and two other guys beat the crap out of him also and he still didn't stop. He finally stopped when he meant someone new. Now my girlfriend has told him to leave her alone, she's gotten her parents and other people involved to try to get him to leave her alone, she's even got the cops involved and she's even put out a restraining order against him. The restraining order kept him away for a short while, but now he's back up to his old tricks. It seems that he leaves us alone for a while and it's like he's finally given up, and then he comes back stronger than ever. So what else can I do besides the obvious: get the cops involved, beat the hell out of him, or move away. We already got cops involved but that's not helped one bit, and we can't move away. Beating him up is also out of the question because all that will result from this is me getting arrested and going to jail. Because he's did this with the other guys that she tried to date and he's quick to call the cops. So I can't fight him, he'll just call the cops on me and not be a man and fight me. I can't confront him, because i'll just lose my temper. This problem has gotten huge now.

Someone please help me!!!

If you have experienced a similar experience please write and let me know what it is you did to overcome this problem.

Thanks.

If he's ignored the restraining order, you can have him put him jail. Call the police.

Yeh, I'd definitely make sure you get the cops to enforce the restraining order.

Other than that, the best thing to do is ignore him. She should not talk to him for any reason ever. Not even to tell him to stay away. If she talks to him at all or acknowledges him in any way this only reinforces his behavior. This is not a minor point. It has to do with operant conditioning on a variable schedule of reinforcement (it's kind of like gambling in a way). If a gambler does not win for long enough, they will eventually stop gambling. But if they win occasionally (or at least don't lose) then they'll keep gambling. Anyway, I digress, but this is very important: she must not acknowledge his existence in any way. Unless she really has not been absolutely clear and final with him that there is NO chance whatsoever no matter the circumstances that there will ever be anything whatsoever between them.

Woot! I finally put my psychological knowledge to use!

-Tino

That was really hot, Tino.

I know, that's why I did it.

Damn psychologists!

lol.

But thanks for the comments and the suggestions guys. I told her last night that she needs to enforce that restraining order and everytime he doesn't obey it, she needs to call the cops. He may get off easy at first, but if she keeps calling the cops everytime he breaks the restraining order, they'll eventually have enough on him to keep him locked-up for a while.

From what I remember of my law class, if they break a restraining order once, they get sent to jail immediately.

Yeah but i've seen these type of guys go to jail for a very short period of time, now if they keep breaking the restraining order, then they will eventually have enough to keep him in there for a while.

by your girlfriend's or anyone close to her acknoledgements towards the stalker, this is fuel for his drive,if you fear him he's won. it's like a game of chess every move is precise, but she needs take control of the board to win the situation, in simpler terms ignore him he will eventually go away ,the problem by far is very difficult because the police need solid proof for conviction.

I'd say def. get the cops involved as he's broken the restraining order, but
don't move away as he might think he has the upper hand.
Hope I helped