Perv? Crazy? Dillusional? Insane? Subconscience Desires?

Ok, I will say this straight out.

I am 22 male, and I am having thoughts about a 14 year old girl. Not lustful thoughts, but thoughts about a future with her. Iv'e known her for 6 years because she is my best friend's Sister, and my Boss' Daughter. I feel nothing but respect, admiration, and adoration for her. ironically, I am just not the type of person to pick a girl, or look for girls. And I have not had a girlfriend since I was 14. I have developed a great deal of self-control and patience. So, because all the vibes and chemestry I feel with her make me feel so strongly about this, I am willing to wait. And I know that since I've made it this long without going crazy without a girl, why can't I wait when I feel something in right deep in my heart, soul, and mind?

She seems like she will be as compatable as any girl could ever be with me when she grows up. It's had for me to explain. For starters, she has a very artistic mind. She is very perceptive and intelligent(for her age). She seems to reason through things better than many people I work with(women in their 30's). And I know she atleast respects me, trusts me, and likes me in some way.

Do you think it would be unwise of me to actually plan on dating this girl in 3.8 years( when she'll be 18 ) if she is still available and the circumstances allow it?

Wow, I would seriously not wait for this girl on the off chance that she *might* be interested 4 years from now.

i say that if you feel like that, then why not? but, maybe try dating other people, just a thought, that will help you realize if you really like her, or just i dont know, am infatuated with her. good luck

I really don't think it's an off chance. There's more to it than that. In fact, the only way I don't think we'd end up being together is if she moves away or something...and even then. We have already established an intellectual/emotional relationship with oneanother to some degree....just growing up with another for 6 years. And it is not an unhealthy one. We just seem to mesh so well together. I know as when speaking generally, I didn't change much when I was 14 up to know. Ofcourse, there are the naivities that come with that age. But everyone goes through that.

What makes you think she doesn't see you as an older brother or something like that?

I will be going to college....I don't want to date other women, I don't need to. I want to concentrate on my work. but, if I meet someone I feel strongly about, I will definately give it a chance.

give her time, if she likes you, shell get pass that and want to be with you. i dont know how to explain it, just wait and see. if it doesnt work out, you know it wasnt meant to be. just dont do anything illegal.

Well, I don't plan on taking advantage of her. So, if you are afraid I will betraying he trust or something, Don't worry.

I will find out in time in what way she thinks of me. And as she gets older, I am sure she may evolve her angle of thought toward me. I am a male, she is a female. And in reality we are not related. If a lasting and meangingfull relationship can be built out of this, what is wrong with taking advantage of it for the best of intentions. I will have known her longer than anyone she will meet in High School. And will be 10 years when she is 18. Knowledge of someone is a great advantage in establishing a lasting relationship.

I agree with been. Wait until she is older and talk to her about it. Just hope she doesn't have a man by then.

true, but that could also push her away. shes young, she doesnt know what she wants out of life yet. she may not know even when shes 18.

Well, I think you're over-estimating your chances here and restricting yourself un-necessarily, but go and do what you want that isn't illegal.

ok tino, not being mean, but youre like, totally negativity. just because that is how you think, doesnt mean everyone is like that.

Well, he asked for opinions on the matter so I'm giving my opinion. Yes, some people are so idealistic but a LOT of things can happen in 4 years. You call that negativity, I call it being realistic. You know what? Maybe it would work out. Who knows, but to be honest, from a statistical standpoint the odds are against it and it is my opinion that in this case the costs outweigh the benefits.

I guess we'll just have to see what happens.

It's hard for me to explain all of the nuances and circumstances of the situation. I may be restricting myself, but I don't think I am overestimating. Like I said, I don't mind restricting myself right now...but if I meet someone else that is perfect for me who is more available...I won't pass that up.