@crazychica Said
You do not know my dad. He's never treated me like his daughter except when it suited him. When I was little I started calling my uncle "daddy" because my dad left him and my grandparents with me when he had me and went off doing his own thing. His brothers don't even know we're not talking, he just tells them that I'm busy at uni and work and haven't been home much.
As for my grandad. The last time I talked to him I phoned the house. He didn't even answer my "how are you?" he just handed the phone over to my gran
If your dad treats you that way, then why are you worried what he thinks? Sorry I didn't mean to come out quite as blunt as that but you know what I mean! One of my best friend's Dad is like that and she has nothing but utter contempt for him....I know blood is thicker than water sometimes but if he's treated you that way, you really shouldn't worry about his reaction to this because it sounds like he's done nothing to warrant your respect...
I would still say write a letter to your grandad, he's of that generation of men who aren't good at dealing with emotions and talking...if you write a letter you'll get chance to say everything without him passing the phone over, cutting you off etc, it will give him chance to think about everything you've said and let it sink in and make him stop and think about it. And if it comes to the worst case scenario and he doesn't read or respond you will feel better for writing it and getting it off your chest, also at least he'll know how you feel. If he doesn't respond you can't force him.....trust me it's much better to have a relationship with him if he wants it too, it will be just as hurtful to yourself if you have to force it out of him too much...concentrate on the members of your family and your friends who are there for you, they're the ones worth your time. Good luck, I wish you nothing but the best