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Long Island, New York
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I've been needing to go back to school to get my bachelors/masters. Problems is I need to have my full-time job along with it so I can keep my medical benefits.
I might have found a solution. But it is a big deal.
I found myself brain storming about what to do and I found a possible solution, even if it's not the right thing to do. I will be discussing it with Austin, my fiance, because he has a huge say in this.
As I've noted a million times before we don't have enough money to have a wedding or move in together as of yet and it will probably be a good 3-5 years worth of saving.
My idea is that we both keep out living situations as is for the time being. That meaning me at my home and he at his until we can get an apartment.
We will go to town hall on a day off and obtain our marriage license and, well... get married. Only we would not tell any of our friends and or family about it.
Why would I do this?
Because if we are married I am covered under his health benefits and would not have to worry and stress myself over having/finding a full-time job to work while doing school full-time.
I could get a part-time job and be a full-time student.
I don't know if he will be able to lie to his whole family and everyone we know. Sounds wrong but, I could. I have no problem with not telling anyone about our "secret marriage".
I can see him having another problem, he wants to have the whole big wedding thing and "do it right".
I don't even want a wedding reception, etc anymore. It's not a big deal to me. As long as we are together (and sometime in the next 12 months living together) I am fine with the arrangement.
We can at a later date have a "ceremony" and small party for our family claiming that as our wedding day....
Would it be so wrong? | |
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Don't know if this is the right thing...
