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In January I noticed that I could no longer find my Dad on facebook, and mentioned it to him. He said that he had deleted his account, because he never really went on it, which I thought was fair enough.
But this week I was on my brothers page via another friends facebook and saw that my Dad is on(and friends with my brother). Back on my own facebook I looked to see if I could find him now (thinking he had made a new account), but I can't - not be searching his name, not by mutual friends. So obviously he has blocked me.If he didn't want to be 'friends', I really wouldn't have cared (I rarely go on fb anyway), but that he has purposefully prevented me from seeing his account and then LIED to me about it? I'm actually really hurt, and kinda pissed off.
He's been my Dad for 15 years, but I feel like I'm now the enemy or something. Or maybe he just never cared, I dunno. But I do feel like it is over. I want my life back. | |
DorkySupergirl
| I am so sorry.  I am not even sure what to say. I am baffled as to how he could be this cruel and to me this is cruel and you have every right to be upset and hurt, I would be too. I'm really sorry he did this to you.
Do you think you will ask him about it or pretend you do not know? |
Tar
| @ninozara Said  In January I noticed that I could no longer find my Dad on facebook, and mentioned it to him. He said that he had deleted his account, because he never really went on it, which I thought was fair enough.
But this week I was on my brothers page via another friends facebook and saw that my Dad is on(and friends with my brother). Back on my own facebook I looked to see if I could find him now (thinking he had made a new account), but I can't - not be searching his name, not by mutual friends. So obviously he has blocked me.
If he didn't want to be 'friends', I really wouldn't have cared (I rarely go on fb anyway), but that he has purposefully prevented me from seeing his account and then LIED to me about it? I'm actually really hurt, and kinda pissed off.
He's been my Dad for 15 years, but I feel like I'm now the enemy or something. Or maybe he just never cared, I dunno. But I do feel like it is over. I want my life back.
its facebook... don't you think you are overreacting?
I block most of my family from my facebook simply because I don't like associations with my FB. My family has more intimate connections with me ie. a phone.
Does he answer your phone calls? Does he talk to you, email you, visit you? Facebook is only facebook. Its not terribly important. |
ninozara
| @DorkySupergirl Said
I am so sorry. I am not even sure what to say. I am baffled as to how he could be this cruel and to me this is cruel and you have every right to be upset and hurt, I would be too. I'm really sorry he did this to you.
Do you think you will ask him about it or pretend you do not know?
Thanks. I know it is only facebook, but it is still horrible, I'm glad I'm not just over reacting though.
The only time he has spoken to me in the past few months is to ask me to pass a message on to my Mum (via text). He's also lied to his parents about a conversation we had, leading them to be annoyed with me...
I don't think I'll be seeing him or be in contact to even ask. But I also don't think I would anyway. |
DorkySupergirl
| @Tar Said
its facebook... don't you think you are overreacting?
I block most of my family from my facebook simply because I don't like associations with my FB. My family has more intimate connections with me ie. a phone.
Does he answer your phone calls? Does he talk to you, email you, visit you? Facebook is only facebook. Its not terribly important.
Her age is listed as 23 and she indicated he has been her father for 15 years so I am thinking this is hurtful to her because she thought of him as her father and I think she feels as though right now he does not think of her as a daughter. He has her brother on his FB and lied to her saying he had no FB anymore. If it was blocking all family, her brother would be blocked and he would not lie and say he did not have one.
I think this goes beyond FB and she is very hurt and upset with someone she thought was her father who is not right now acting like one.
I could be wrong, just my impression and did not want to put words in anyone mouth but I get the feeling she feel betrayed.
I have found even though I might not get upset or hurt and someone else is and vice verse, they have a right to their feelings and its not overeacting just because it might not hurt me or upset me. This would upset me but just saying, she has a right to feel hurt and upset and betrayed, its not just about FB. |
Tar
| @DorkySupergirl Said
Her age is listed as 23 and she indicated he has been her father for 15 years so I am thinking this is hurtful to her because she thought of him as her father and I think she feels as though right now he does not think of her as a daughter. He has her brother on his FB and lied to her saying he had no FB anymore. If it was blocking all family, her brother would be blocked and he would not lie and say he did not have one.
I think this goes beyond FB and she is very hurt and upset with someone she thought was her father who is not right now acting like one.
I could be wrong, just my impression and did not want to put words in anyone mouth but I get the feeling she feel betrayed.
I have found even though I might not get upset or hurt and someone else is and vice verse, they have a right to their feelings and its not overeacting just because it might not hurt me or upset me. This would upset me but just saying, she has a right to feel hurt and upset and betrayed, its not just about FB.
maybe its just a misunderstanding between her and her father. It may have been possible that he made his account on some "exclusive" mode which automatically blocks everyone not explicitly added and it was just a mistake that she was not added or something. Anyways, my point is, that its probably best that she simply talk to him about it since it is so upsetting to her. Hopefully it can be worked out |
DorkySupergirl
| @ninozara Said
Thanks. I know it is only facebook, but it is still horrible, I'm glad I'm not just over reacting though.
The only time he has spoken to me in the past few months is to ask me to pass a message on to my Mum (via text). He's also lied to his parents about a conversation we had, leading them to be annoyed with me...
I don't think I'll be seeing him or be in contact to even ask. But I also don't think I would anyway.
I do not think you are overreacting at all. I would be upset too but even if it would not upset me, you still have a right to be hurt, upset or whatever else you feel. People always have a right to their feelings.
It seems as though you do love him so I hope this new found strain can be mended. |
ninozara
| @Tar Said
its facebook... don't you think you are overreacting?
I block most of my family from my facebook simply because I don't like associations with my FB. My family has more intimate connections with me ie. a phone.
Does he answer your phone calls? Does he talk to you, email you, visit you? Facebook is only facebook. Its not terribly important.
Like I said, I wouldn't have really cared if he just didn't want to be 'friends', but the way he lied and has blocked me...that hurts.
But no he hasn't been in contact (except to tell me to pass a message onto my Mum). There are a lot of other things, the facebook thing is just sort of breaking point...Like it isn't just circumstances, but that he has gone out of his way to cut me out. |
Tar
| @ninozara Said
Like I said, I wouldn't have really cared if he just didn't want to be 'friends', but the way he lied and has blocked me...that hurts.
But no he hasn't been in contact (except to tell me to pass a message onto my Mum). There are a lot of other things, the facebook thing is just sort of breaking point...Like it isn't just circumstances, but that he has gone out of his way to cut me out.
Something must have happened between you two then. Did you two have a fight or did someone (your brother perhaps) come between you and him? I've had situations like this where someone I didn't know came between a friend and I. Or.. I don't meant to be disrespectful but...it could be that he is simply a jerk? |
rosexthorn
| I can truly relate to the hurt, pain and maybe even a tad of anger that you're feeling. My son did the very same thing to me and when he unblocked me told me that he had never had me blocked which was a lie.
Don't know what to say except go with your emotions and work with them until you can accept them knowing full well that they will probably keep on denying the blocking for whatever reasons they don't want us to know. I myself think it's very selfish to block without giving a reason, especially a family member. |
white_swan53
| No, facebook does not ruin lives.
It is the people who use facebook and do things like what your dad has done that ruin lives.
I hope you get to the bottom of whatever the problem is and it all turns out for the best. |
Lil_O_Me
| Don't take websites seriously It's real life that matters.  |
JR_Sanford
| @ninozara Said In January I noticed that I could no longer find my Dad on facebook, and mentioned it to him. He said that he had deleted his account, because he never really went on it, which I thought was fair enough.
But this week I was on my brothers page via another friends facebook and saw that my Dad is on(and friends with my brother). Back on my own facebook I looked to see if I could find him now (thinking he had made a new account), but I can't - not be searching his name, not by mutual friends. So obviously he has blocked me.
If he didn't want to be 'friends', I really wouldn't have cared (I rarely go on fb anyway), but that he has purposefully prevented me from seeing his account and then LIED to me about it? I'm actually really hurt, and kinda pissed off.
He's been my Dad for 15 years, but I feel like I'm now the enemy or something. Or maybe he just never cared, I dunno. But I do feel like it is over. I want my life back.
Have you tried calling Him? A regular conversation may enlighten you. Better yet, go see Him in person. Have a face to face sit down talk to air your feelings.
J.R. |
Drgnfly83
| | I wouldn't blame this on fb. Blame it on the person that got a FB page and decided to treat you that way. If that is how he wants to treat you, be the better person and just cut him out of your life. I'm sure you are a great person, and having someone like that in your life only brings you down. Don't let that happen. |
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Facebook ruins lives
July 31, 2012 @ 01:14:32 am
