My mom's friend, back when i was 13ish, was 33. He liked beavis and butthead, and I, the typical 13 year old, also liked beavis and butthead. We hung out, but just in talking at my mom's activities and stuff, and when we saw each other in public. Once I turned 16 or 17, it began to seem like he was getting a renewed interest in me and suggesting we go do stuff together. Luckily I always had a reason not to and only occasionally hit him up for a ride somewhere. So then he started asking when i turned 18. I was no longer really naive or anything, so i told him, then made sure to always mention my boyfriend. Once i turned 18, he continued to ask what i was doing, but by that time i'd started college so wasn't around much. I ended up just blocking him on my buddy list so he doesn't know when i'm online so he can't ask me to hang out with him, because apparently he hasn't gotten the hint that I don't want to hang out with a man 20 years older than me anymore.

I had a dream once (The thing that kills me is that I can't remember if it was a dream or if i actually did it) that I just told him flat out, "Look, i think you're a little too old for me to hang out with, or keep any kind of relationship with." And really I should just go ahead and do it for sure, because that would be the honest way to go, but it's a lot easier just to avoid him and keep the communications short at most.

Today I get a friend request on Myspace from a, we'll call him "ian". I was thinking "oh god i hope it's the ian from high school, please be the ian from high school..." sure enough it wasn't. So now i'm stuck with a friend request that i'm just ignoring for now. I went to his page and he has lots of friends listed, but they're all really good looking, shapely girls of probably about my age, and those aren't in huge supply in our town. So i don't want to be thought of like that by him. I mean these are people that i couldn't hold a candle to, but at the same time i don't want him looking at me the same way, nor do i want the possibility in my head that he is (as if not accepting his friend request will keep it from happening... denial's a powerful tool). I should just tell him my fiance who i'm very happy with doesn't allow me to talk to older men. Haha, but that would be counterproductive in the end possibly, cuz then he might see it as a mission to save me or something, which would be the worst thing possible. But it's funny to consider. My mom and step dad both know how i feel about him and have just stopped inviting him to their parties and stuff, but they can't control any of their community functions that he's at volunteering or whatever. So they try to help me avoid him.

But my point is, does anyone have any advice about this? He's tracked me down on myspace and he's sure to be asking soon what my screenname is, to which i'll probably just say "i don't have one" or give him one i never use. Ever. So do i continue to ignore him? For the sake of him not pestering my family about it, I feel this is the best course of action. He hasn't done anything i'd really consider wrong other than coming on too quickly after i'd known him since i was 13 - that's creepy. Thanks!