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Hey guys,I been gone because I was goin thru Domestic violence. My mom assaulted me in Feb 2011, I and my kids moved out her home in with my friend, stayed two months, then moved into a house apartment. I couldn't afford the rent because of missed days at work. My ex-hub began to send death threats so i ended goin into a Domestic Violence shelter with my kids. Their program changed my life.I began to deal with the abuse I've suffered for years and my issues, went to therapy,support groups, as well as my kids.Now I've found empowerment and hope that I've needed to keep goin,as well as a renewed faith in God and prayer. My kids and I are now living safely in housing until we wait for a Domestic violence housing to become available.
=Jus know for anyone going thru Domestic Violence:There is help Available. Never stay in a Violent Situation,NOONE DESERVES ABUSE(no matter what excuse an Abuser gives you),Know your Worth, People will only do what you let them do to you, Protect your kids and yourself,Let that be a Motivation to get out,Love isn't supposed to Hurt Violently,,..
=National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233
=Safe Horizons 1-800-621-4673
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mixieloca
| It feels good to live in a place where I don't have to fear Violence. Where i don't have to argue with nobody, or have my life threatened, or be disrespected. I can raise my children Peacefully without Interference. I still have court dates but I'm hoping the judge makes decisions that are just and in accordance with the law. It's funny how i feel more at home in a shelter than living with family. I've learned that blood doesn't necessarily mean Love. Your family may be Dysfunctional. I found out mine was very Dysfunctional, only after leaving them and being in therapy. A lot of things I was taught were not only unhealthy but wrong and damaging to my Self. I'm jus glad to be free. I will never move in with them again.I will always make sure I got my own. And that Safety and peace of mind will triumph in the decisions I make in the future.
=The worst thing about all this is i lost my relationship with my Boyfriend Chris. First we seperated and then we broke up. My Dv situation was a bit much for him, but i found out thru therapy that our relationship wasn't that healthy either. There were elements of emotional abuse in it, (on his side). So in a sense I'm still grieving his loss, Cause I truly loved him. I loved him even more than my Abusive ex-husband.I thought he was gonna be the one. But You know what they say. You never Truly see a Man until A Crisis situation presents itself. That's when a man's true color's will come out. You'll see what a man is truly made of.
C. |
Dark_Tink
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| Welcome back. :wave:
Glad to hear that your situation is better and that you and your kids are doing well. |
sTreetAngeL
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| @mixieloca Said
It feels good to live in a place where I don't have to fear Violence. Where i don't have to argue with nobody, or have my life threatened, or be disrespected. I can raise my children Peacefully without Interference. I still have court dates but I'm hoping the judge makes decisions that are just and in accordance with the law. It's funny how i feel more at home in a shelter than living with family. I've learned that blood doesn't necessarily mean Love. Your family may be Dysfunctional. I found out mine was very Dysfunctional, only after leaving them and being in therapy. A lot of things I was taught were not only unhealthy but wrong and damaging to my Self. I'm jus glad to be free. I will never move in with them again.I will always make sure I got my own. And that Safety and peace of mind will triumph in the decisions I make in the future.
=The worst thing about all this is i lost my relationship with my Boyfriend Chris. First we seperated and then we broke up. My Dv situation was a bit much for him, but i found out thru therapy that our relationship wasn't that healthy either. There were elements of emotional abuse in it, (on his side). So in a sense I'm still grieving his loss, Cause I truly loved him. I loved him even more than my Abusive ex-husband.I thought he was gonna be the one. But You know what they say. You never Truly see a Man until A Crisis situation presents itself. That's when a man's true color's will come out. You'll see what a man is truly made of.
C.
God bless you!
Stand strong, and proud; and on your own two feet.
With the help of God, you can do anything.
You never have to be anybody's doormat!
As for Chris...remember,..you were probably subconsciously seeking out abusive types, because that was all you knew.
You are learning now the difference though; and what 'love' is supposed to look like.
Congratulations to you on breaking free! |
rosexthorn
| Ditto!
Been there many times and you've wrapped this whole horrific ordeal in one powerful message. Way to go!! |
mixieloca
| Thank you guys for those who greeted me. Glad to be out!I'm not out the woods yet. But for the most part Almost! Me and the kids are doing great! |
sAeGeSpAeNe
Part-time Nidologist
| Gheez! It's been a long while.... I'm happy to see you again! |
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