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The drama is never done, I guess
September 05, 2009 @ 02:55:04 am

Okay, first of all, let me apologize. My computer wasn't working for about 2 days and with all the work going on the site, my phone was really, really slow, it wasn't even loading the pages, so if I didn't respond to your PM, I'm sorry! I will! And I couldn't upload any pics either. I'll do that, too. But right now I just have to get this off my chest.
Okay, so I've been working at Subway, and normally I work 5 nights a week, and it's always just me and Devon. Devon is a big question mark. Sometimes he's happy, sometimes he's sad, sometimes he's pissed off. We'll be having a great conversation and then he'll just catch an attitude with me. Or he'll be pissed off the whole night and then strike up a conversation with me. It took a while, but I adjusted to his crazy mood swings. He's 30 with a 10 year old daughter, has problems with the mother, and he's been at Subway for 4 years, I think, but he's not the manager. Okay, so anyway, we usually get along great. He has a lot of problems, so I let him unload them on me. I'm his ear and shoulder at work. I talk to him, listen to him, give him advice when he needs it. He says he enjoys our friendship.
Last week, my boss, Bery, gave me a list of things I need to get done before I leave each night. I've been trying to get them done. So me and Jeff were having problems last weekend, we even broke up for about 2 days or something like that. I went to work pretty pissed and told Devon about it so he knew that I wasn't mad at him and not to take my attitude personally. What do you know? He did anyway. So I'm trying to get this friggin list done on Monday and Devon asked me if I was going to do the bread(which is on the list). I shook my head yes. He said, "Hello, am I talking to myself?" I said not to worry, I'll do the bread. 5 minutes passed and he asked me again. I didn't say anything cause I was so mad. He said, "Forget it, I'll do the breads". I didn't say anything. I'm already mad at Jeff and now I got Devon giving me s***. I let him do the breads, I wasn't gonna argue. So Wednesday we were working together and he asked me if I was still being a b****. I smiled and said no, I'm fine, which I was. We were good the whole night.
Last night, we were ridiculously busy because there was a Jets game? Idk, I don't follow football like that. We were crazy busy. And to be honest, I was working my a** off. But no matter how fast I was, Devon was saying out loud can I hurry it up. I didn't wanna cause tension in front of customers, so I told him, "Do your job and I'll do mine. My pace is fine". He said some smart comments back, and I just kept quiet. So after the rush, we were refilling everything, prepping things we'd run out of. So my shift ended, but I always stay and keep him company and wait for Jeff to get me instead of walk home. And Devon's friend Chris came by to say hi to him. We talk, too, he's pretty cool. And he told me, "You know, Devon's worked with a*****es here. No one that they put him to work with has been much help. But when you came to the store, it was like a blessing. He's not chain smoking anymore, he's not stressed, he's laughing at work now. Just keep it up, whatever you're doing." And I felt bad because I told Devon that next week would be my last week there because I got another job. He's been telling me not to leave, but I need the money. I promised him I'd stay in touch and wouldn't disappear.
So he was prepping the onions and we were talking. All of a sudden, he goes, "So why haven't you been doing the breads?" I tried not to argue, but basically explained how I viewed things. And I told him we couldn't get anything done that particular night because of the business, but even though I was clocked out I offered to do the breads. He just caught more of an attitude and basically said I don't give a s*** about the store or the list and all this crap. I told him how impatient he is and I don't like it when he gives me an attitude. For the most part, I'll get to it. If I don't do it the minute after he asks me to and he gets mad and does it himself, what am I supposed to do? I told him he needs to stop stressing. I'm prefectly capable of doing the breads, but I always do that last, so chill out, stop timing me, I WILL do it before I leave. He started going off on me. He said things like, "You know, this isn't your call. If I tell you to do something I expect it to get done right then and there. It's not a negotiation. I'm not working on your time clock" and all this bulls***. I had to argue back because that's not how I feel at all. He's just so impatient and he doesn't get it. He KNOWS I will do it and help him. He knows it. I was just in shock when he said that. So we're arguing back and forth and it's getting pretty heated. He just cuts me off and says this EXACTLY: "You know what, Jenna? Why don't you just f***ing quit already. What the f*** are you waiting for. Just f***ing quit if you don't wanna be here!" I was in shock. Like, seriously, I just wanted to cry, and I did, but not in front of him. I just picked up my phone and walked out of the store. I never did that before at any job. I just left and started walking home. And I cried. I was so upset. And I was just thinking it wasn't THAT serious. It's just bread. What is his problem? And it's a 45 minute walk home, so after 20 minutes he was calling my cell phone. I don't know if it was too apologize or what, but I was a mess, I couldn't pick it up. He called twice more after another 20 minutes. I still didn't answer. He was my friend. What kind of friend says things like that? I'd never treat a friend that way. So basically I quit. I was scheduled today and didn't go, I went to the other job I got.
My mom always emails me from work so we were talking and I told her what happened today. She replied with, "Jenna, come on. He wasn't yelling at you about the bread. You're leaving the job. You guys got so close while working together and now you're leaving. That's why he was so angry. It wasn't the bread, it was you and your situation. Which is why he exaggerated the whole 'quit already' part". I started thinking about it and it kind of made sense. Maybe he wasn't mad about the bread. Maybe he was mad because I was leaving? Maybe it was both? I don't really know. He didn't call today, though. Maybe he got so discouraged that I ignored his calls last night that he didn't want to call. But I don't know what to do. I just had to let this out. It's really been bugging me. If you have any suggestions, please tell me. Cause I'm really confused. And thanks for reading the whole thing if you did. You know me and my long journals.

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incognito

Giddy In The Pants

New Post! September 05, 2009 @ 03:05:16 am
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I like your long journals.
My opinion is, he needs to suck it up. Just because you were leaving doesn't mean he should have been a b**** to you. No matter how he was feeling. And man, maybe he wasn't that great of a person to surround yourself with anyway. You sound too nice. If someone was a d*** to me one day, then acting cool the next, and thought that was the level of respect that our friendship deserved, I would have probably told him to feck off.
I think that he isn't someone you should even invest in. f*** him.
He was a coworker who was cool sometimes, and a d*** sometimes too. A friend is someone who doesn't stress you out, or treat you poorly because they are in the mood.
If it weighs heavily on your conscience, then don't let it. You deserve more respect from a friend. I would have probably kicked him in the balls before I walked out, so you are a better girl then I.



I hope you love your new job though, and everything is way better!


boobagins

SPICY HOT TAMALES

New Post! September 05, 2009 @ 03:06:25 am
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I have to agree with your mom...he was mad at you for leaving, but it does not excuse his earlier behavior.

He obviously views you as a friend since he was doing so much better with you there.

I would call him and at least try to make things right, leave on a good note than a bad note if you have to. Go out for coffee and just talk...ask him, let him know you would really appreciate it. Let him know how feel and if you want to continue to be friends, offer your friendship.


loveis

brat-inella

New Post! September 05, 2009 @ 03:10:04 am
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Sounds to me like he was pissed because of your leaving; his friend even told you your being there has lifted much off his shoulders..now things will return to as before. However; you said he is snappy with you anyway...soooo..
I dunno..to me it's like, with friends like that, who needs problem relationships, you know?

You put up with bulls*** from Jeff, but you don't have to from some other guy..
if you value his friendship, and he yours, he should know instinctively how to treat you...
maybe his wife is on to something?..just my opinion.


evababy1

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New Post! September 05, 2009 @ 03:17:41 am
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I know it sounds like I'm making a big deal out of it, and maybe I am. I don't know...Like, at first we just clicked, we were mad cool, we became almost like best friends. Then things slowly began to change and get all iffy. He started with his attitudes about s***. I feel like I shouldn't care as much as I do, if that makes any sense. Most of my friends just smoke and/or drink. I don't really have too many personal friends I can confide in. So when we started talking after I get hired there, it felt really comfortable. We were calling eachother a lot just to talk. It was nice. He just started changing out of nowhere. Then the new job thing really put a spin on our friendship. I feel like he's acting like a little kid. He needs to grow up and get over it. If he wanted to keep our friendship he wouldn't have said all that. And I keep telling myself he didn't mean it. He was just angry and couldn't keep it in. You say things you don't mean sometimes when you're mad. Maybe I'm being naive. But whatever, hopefully it'll work out. Thanks for the responses, though. I've only talked to my mom about this and needed some more input. You guys are the best!!!


boobagins

SPICY HOT TAMALES

New Post! September 05, 2009 @ 03:23:03 am
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@evababy1 Said

I know it sounds like I'm making a big deal out of it, and maybe I am. I don't know...Like, at first we just clicked, we were mad cool, we became almost like best friends. Then things slowly began to change and get all iffy. He started with his attitudes about s***. I feel like I shouldn't care as much as I do, if that makes any sense. Most of my friends just smoke and/or drink. I don't really have too many personal friends I can confide in. So when we started talking after I get hired there, it felt really comfortable. We were calling eachother a lot just to talk. It was nice. He just started changing out of nowhere. Then the new job thing really put a spin on our friendship. I feel like he's acting like a little kid. He needs to grow up and get over it. If he wanted to keep our friendship he wouldn't have said all that. And I keep telling myself he didn't mean it. He was just angry and couldn't keep it in. You say things you don't mean sometimes when you're mad. Maybe I'm being naive. But whatever, hopefully it'll work out. Thanks for the responses, though. I've only talked to my mom about this and needed some more input. You guys are the best!!!


I agree with all the post here. I do believe he was dysfunctional in the way he was treating you before you were leaving. And I do agree, who needs that stuff? He should value your friendship more...but we can't really understand why he's acting they way he does.

From what you wrote here...it seems like you need closure, to finally set things straight, see if you can be friends, see if you do need to care about him more or not. IDK, i would ask him to hang out to where you can say your FULL and HONEST say...after that evaluate the situation and decide if you're better off or see a potential friendship.

Though it is risky since he seems to be very moody. IDK do what your gut tells you to do.


loveis

brat-inella

New Post! September 05, 2009 @ 03:23:29 am
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@evababy1 Said

I know it sounds like I'm making a big deal out of it, and maybe I am. I don't know...Like, at first we just clicked, we were mad cool, we became almost like best friends. Then things slowly began to change and get all iffy. He started with his attitudes about s***. I feel like I shouldn't care as much as I do, if that makes any sense. Most of my friends just smoke and/or drink. I don't really have too many personal friends I can confide in. So when we started talking after I get hired there, it felt really comfortable. We were calling eachother a lot just to talk. It was nice. He just started changing out of nowhere. Then the new job thing really put a spin on our friendship. I feel like he's acting like a little kid. He needs to grow up and get over it. If he wanted to keep our friendship he wouldn't have said all that. And I keep telling myself he didn't mean it. He was just angry and couldn't keep it in. You say things you don't mean sometimes when you're mad. Maybe I'm being naive. But whatever, hopefully it'll work out. Thanks for the responses, though. I've only talked to my mom about this and needed some more input. You guys are the best!!!



You're not making a big deal out of it; it IS a big deal, it's a VERY big deal!

Who the hell does he think he is to treat you like that?
Friends just don't behave that way! - Husbands, and lovers do, but even they, if kept up for too long, usually end up in the history books..

I think you are better off without this one in your life..
you seem to me like you are in real need of 'real friends'..and frankly, this guy just sounds like problems waiting to happen..
perhaps he may even be bi-polar..it may explain alot..

..sorry you are going through crap again though.


evababy1

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New Post! September 05, 2009 @ 05:37:25 am
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I been thinking about it, and I decided I'm not gonna call him. If he calls me I might consider talking to him, but I doubt it. He's a grown man and he should be able to control his anger. No matter what he was mad for. His outburst was uncalled for and hurtful. I'm not down to put up with it anymore. Thanks for talking some sense into me.


mon_ami

New Post! September 05, 2009 @ 05:48:59 am
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I agree with Incognito. You can't change a person, so if they don't respect your feelings and put too much pressure on you to deliver
more than what you can, they do not deserve to have you in their life. Their loss. You can't feel bad when you've done all that you can.

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