"If you can't drink it, eat it, or fuck it, it's not worth it."  Jason13
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I've kinda been seein this girl for oh a few weeks...Really startin to give me the s***s too. I do absolutely everything to go out of my way to make time for her, but she just wants more.
But the thing is she expects me to go to her place all the time. And only ONCE has she made her way to mine. I even went to hers after the final ACDC concert. And after a big weekend, a pinched nerve in my back on saturday, all day walking saturday and sunday in the sun. First day of school on monday, ACDC monday night. I was absolutely wrecked. I said I MIGHT go and see her after the show, but my train was late and I wasn't going to get there till around 1:45am.
So I thought, bugger it, I can be home and in bed by 1, that's what I need. So I called her after the show, explained my situation, and said I was just going to go home and get some well deserved rest. This was received with a typical sooky la la tone, that she's emotionally upset because of work and wanted some company. But my physical exhaustion and soreness, and the fact I could hardly move, shouldn't stop me from making the 45 minute drive to go see her.
So I ended up going to see her, and pretty much fell asleep straight away. Waking up in the morning, to her being in a mood because I fell asleep straight away!!
Now on my ONE day off of the week, I decided to have a few drinks, so I can't drive, AGAIN, she wants me to go and see her late at night. I said that's actually not possible now though.
Is it too much to ask that I don't HAVE to make all the effort? It's ok for her, she gets up at 8 in the morning, I get up at 6. She works 5 days a week, I have ONE day off. She's on a full time wage, and I'm getting casual cash, and student benefits. Yet I have been making all the effort. And when I genuinely go out of my way to see her, she still finds something to b**** about it!!
Is this s*** normal, and I'm not ready for a relationship, or is she asking too much?
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IHateDave
| I think if you are askng about it, you know deep down she is being a demanding diva. You can only do what you can do. School comes first and being a student you do not make a lot so you have to do some work here and there.
She is not being what Mommy says is understanding. |
JorieJukebox
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| | Seems like there should be some sort of middle ground. I understand your frustration, it seems a lot of women just expect the man to put forth all the effort! Women want equality, but where does it come into dating? You think I'd understand them better BEING one, but HA! |
unicorn
| If she's genuine about you she will make some effort to. Just try to explain your situation when your not feeling tired and grumpy and tell her it will be worth her while  |
Jason13
| Cheers 
Max - Here's a cookie (and a beer, but don't tell your mommy)
I guess that's kind of what I want to say to her, but I don't know how to say it without sound angry or attacking.
But also, if it's only been a couple of weeks, and this is a problem already, I'm starting to think that at this early stage, probably isn't worth pursuing it further... |
floydgirrl
Stalkee
| Uhhhh when did you start dating my roommate????? 
j/k
IMO, she's asking too much. She needs to give a little or be more understanding. These things usually don't get better unless you talk about them. If you talk and they still don't change, chances are, they aren't going. |
IHateDave
| | She is already the stage five clinger. If you have a nice tone and say things like, "I feel as though..." she cannot get mad at you. |
Jason13
| @floydgirrl Said 
Uhhhh when did you start dating my roommate?????
j/k
IMO, she's asking too much. She needs to give a little or be more understanding. These things usually don't get better unless you talk about them. If you talk and they still don't change, chances are, they aren't going.
Well I've kinda put my story forward, just then, if it gets moody, it's over. I have more s*** to worry about than this!
Full time study, and trying to make ends meat is an 8 day a week job as it is.
@IKnowItAll Said
She is already the stage five clinger. If you have a nice tone and say things like, "I feel as though..." she cannot get mad at you.
I don't really care if she gets mad anymore. I'm just gonna tell it like it is. Why can't people be more like dogs? (have another cookie Max) (but don't tell your Mommy) |
iwannano
Mountain William
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Is this s*** normal, and I'm not ready for a relationship
If it ain't now , it will be soon if you don't stop allowing it to go on and on and on ,,,,,,. |
DroolOverMe
| I think you already know from what your saying that the relationship is not working.
You need to find someone who is understanding. |
Jason13
| Well I ended it.
I did it very nicely and we're still friends. I just said that I have my priorities now, and a relationship is NOT one of them. I don't have the time to give ANYONE they deserve being in a relationship. In between study, band and trying to work. I don't have time to scratch myself, let alone a womans needs.
And I didn't realise this till the end of my first week of school, hence why I didn't tell her earlier. Ok so it's a little bit of a white lie, but mostly true, and it was the best way to keep everyone happy. |
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Nothing is ever good enough apparantly.
February 18, 2010 @ 03:48:12 am
