@Deal_With_It Said tomorrow, December 25th, since my eldest son died. I can't seem to cry. I'm afraid that if I start I won't be able to stop.
He was only 44. It was an apartment fire. They found him on the sofa in the frontroom. If you're aware of a fire wouldn't you be by a door or window? I think that's what has really saved me from losing it. (Please if anyone responds to this please don't tell me I'm wrong.)
Haven't heard from the coroner yet. They had to use his dental records. He's had the same dentist since he was 12. Except for the time he was in the Army. So why is it taking so long?
My two granddaughters want to put his ashes in Puget Sound. I'm not sure if that's legal. Will have to find out.
I wish I believed in a heaven.
@Demented Said
So sorry to here the sad news,the crying bit?,some people don't shed tears so I wouldn't feel bad about it.
What your Grandaughters want to do with his ashes,let them,don't ask permission just do it,what the local authorities don't know won't hurt them.
Once again sorry to hear of your loss.
@boobear Said
So sorry for your loss and that you are having to go through this, hope you find some peace soon, thinking of you
@someone_else_again Said
I am so sorry for your loss.
I found some info for you regarding the scattering of the ashes. Apparently you can scatter them in Puget Sound. You can even do it from the ferry, there's just some protocol to follow.
https://funeralinformation.org/scattering-ashes/
I hope it brings you peace.
@treebee Said
What awful news and what a shock you must be feeling. I am so sorry. I know its not really any help. I do hope there is a full investigation into what happened so that it can help you understand a bit more.
Don't be on your own, don't be scared to talk about it and do take good advice from professional people like samaritans or local bereavement groups.
I am not religious but I wish some peace of mind for you, hold on when things seem darkest
To all of you that have replied I really appreciate your kind words. I wasn't planning to bring this up when for many people this holiday is sacred and full of happiness.
I was going through a moment of melancholy. Now you don't need to say 'Oh that's ok people need to get their emotions out there.' I normally am not that type of person.
I don't know but for some reason I needed to tell someone that I lost my son. |