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Camaro2021 On December 01, 2008




surprise, Arizona
#1New Post! Oct 28, 2008 @ 16:59:15
Okay so here is my issue...I have been in on relationship that has been going on 5 years now...we were high school sweethearts and now im in my 3 year of college and he has no job and sits at home...a couple of months ago he broke up with me for the reason that he needed to prove to himself that he cares about me. then he asks to be a part of my life again (which i said yes to) but now he says he does not know what love is and some days he feels like he has love and other days he doesn't..but yet he wants to keep me around even though hes this confused..now am i just crazy or is this something I have the right to be upset about?
plebian_angel On April 25, 2012
Intergalactic hussy





a great future,
#2New Post! Oct 28, 2008 @ 17:03:15
Sounds to me he's made up his mind..to keep stringing you along. If he really wanted you, he wouldn't be playing these games with you.
sillygoosey On July 23, 2009




Full of Hope,
#3New Post! Oct 28, 2008 @ 17:04:48
Yes you do have the right to be upset, but at yourself not him...he's only doing what you allow him to do...
loveis On January 15, 2010
brat-inella


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In the mirror,
#4New Post! Oct 28, 2008 @ 17:06:39
If he's not working, and just sits at home, and you are bettering your life, all of this confusion he is suffering I'd look at as a blessing come at just the right time. (especially if he's not in love with you)
And use that as your incentive to cut him loose for good.

He will just drag you down if you don't.
..I know.
Camaro2021 On December 01, 2008




surprise, Arizona
#5New Post! Oct 28, 2008 @ 17:07:34
i did bring that up to him..i let him know that i do not want him thinking that it's ok to keep me around in the meantime why he figures out what he wants to do..
Camaro2021 On December 01, 2008




surprise, Arizona
#6New Post! Oct 28, 2008 @ 17:09:27
I have let him get away with a lot of emotional abuse he has caused in the past and that is my fault but it is so hard to let someone go that you do love very much..
plebian_angel On April 25, 2012
Intergalactic hussy





a great future,
#7New Post! Oct 28, 2008 @ 17:10:53
It's also nice when you cut them loose and get them out of your life
Camaro2021 On December 01, 2008




surprise, Arizona
#8New Post! Oct 28, 2008 @ 17:13:48
but when you are with someone for that many years or more, its hard to picture them not there... i guess i have always been an optimistic person for the most part and that is what is telling me that maybe there is room for change?
sillygoosey On July 23, 2009




Full of Hope,
#9New Post! Oct 28, 2008 @ 17:16:50
you have to go on his track record in regards to change...so far he hasn't and right now you are convenient to him, not a partner
loveis On January 15, 2010
brat-inella


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In the mirror,
#10New Post! Oct 28, 2008 @ 17:22:06
@Camaro2021 Said

but when you are with someone for that many years or more, its hard to picture them not there... i guess i have always been an optimistic person for the most part and that is what is telling me that maybe there is room for change?



Well you'd better do it while you can...before you become stuck! literally!
thelocaone On September 10, 2009




Pensacola, Florida
#11New Post! Oct 28, 2008 @ 17:24:45
If he hasn't changed after 5 yrs.. I doubt there will be any change. He may be waiting around so that you can be his "sugar momma" while he sits around. I say.. break it off and if he really does want to be with you he would make an effort to change and better himself. If you have more bad times than good times the relationship is no good.
Camaro2021 On December 01, 2008




surprise, Arizona
#12New Post! Oct 28, 2008 @ 17:26:33
Haha yeah...I guess i can admit i have confusion myself...
iliterate_enginere On February 12, 2010

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Wichita, Kansas
#13New Post! Oct 28, 2008 @ 17:54:41
@Camaro2021 Said

I have let him get away with a lot of emotional abuse he has caused in the past and that is my fault but it is so hard to let someone go that you do love very much..



yes it is. and the only way to do it is to just put him out of your life altogether, which makes it all the more harder. It sounds to me like he just doesn't care for you the same way as he used to, and that he's just keeping around for his own gain without thinking much about you and the future, otherwise he wouldn't keep going back and forth also would've gotten a job.
Camaro2021 On December 01, 2008




surprise, Arizona
#14New Post! Oct 28, 2008 @ 17:57:21
I haven't had much experience with relationships since he was my first and only, and sometimes I wish i did have that experience to help me out in this relationship...
iliterate_enginere On February 12, 2010

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Wichita, Kansas
#15New Post! Oct 28, 2008 @ 18:00:14
@Camaro2021 Said

I haven't had much experience with relationships since he was my first and only, and sometimes I wish i did have that experience to help me out in this relationship...


yeah, those are by far always the hardest to get over. and it's so easy to get pulled back in, but you have to do what's best for you get yourself out of it or else you will always be in that cycle.
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