@garfunkel Said Just wondering if anyone on here has gone a significant period of time with no contact with one of their parents for whatever reason, and it so have you tracked them down and made contact?
Was it awkward? A relief? Something that needed to be done?
I've just been thinking a lot lately. I haven't seen my Dad or heard from him in about 7 or 8 years. Partly by choice and partly because I have no choice. He's chosen to not make any effort by contacting myself or my brothers and I feel why should I want to see him if he doesn't seem interested in wanting to see me?
Recently my cousin from my Dads side found me on facebook and myspace. I haven't had any contact at all since the divorce from Dads side, just the decision that was made for us and to not cause arguments just went along with. Anyway I don't know why but I can't talk to my cousin. I've ignored them. Its not her fault, but in a way I feel if I talk to her and let her know how im going then Dad will find out someway and I feel he doesn't deserve the right to know what im doig with my life and how I am unless he asks me himself...
Not long after my parents split, we moved interstate for about 3 years. The only contact I had with my father in that time was by occasionally calling him reverse charges (Mum said he wasn't paying a cent in child support, he can pay for the phone call) and these
very few calls were marred by him abusing my mother via me ( I was about 11) for making him pay for the calls.
When we moved back however, he was all of a sudden interested in taking me out for weekends etc. But I must say that after all the time away and all the crap that I witnessed, I had gone from a right Daddy's girl to not trusting him one iota. I didn't know what to say and it was a bit awkward, I didn't know him the way I used to. And so it fizzled out a bit.
I guess what you have to do is decide whether you want him in your life now/and in the future. And I totally understand you not wanting to share your life with him via other family members. It is up to him to make contact, if he is aware that your cousin has attempted to talk to you.
In my opinion, it tells you a lot if someone (if this is what happened) finds out on the sly where you are/what you are doing and doesn't have the guts to approach you and ask if you feel comfortable catching up
Jan 11, 2008 @ 03:48:13
Have you ever tried to find him?
