@LuckyCharms Said
Well I don't see what's so amazingly strong about it. I am of the opinion that we are born either straight or gay (or somewhere in between). I don't think that all of a sudden a person goes from straight to gay or vice versa.
Well, for a start we are not born straight or gay. A person doesn't suddenly go straight or gay, but they gradually acquire their sexuality during puberty. I say it's a strong claim because it makes clear predictions about the objective world which it isn't difficult to imagine being falsified. I think you should be careful in forming such opinions.
@LuckyCharms Said They may not have admitted it to themselves or others, and when it comes out later in life it can be quite surprising but the seeds of their sexuality were always there.
That just seems slightly patronising. I don't think you're qualified to make these kinds of claims about people's sexuality.
@LuckyCharms Said
I've never met a gay person that said "I decided I was gay." I have heard "I discovered I was gay", "I always felt different" and even "I was never attracted to guys/gals and now I am living the way I feel".
Anecdotal evidence is easily refuted by contrary anecdotal evidence.
@LuckyCharms Said
Sexuality is one of our most primal urges and I don't think someone can be cajoled into being something they are not. They can be cajoled into acting like someone they respect/like/admire/love wants them to be. I've seen that happen. Usually they are seeking approval or trying to fit in. (Note, for the nitpickers, I said usually.)
I'm not sure that sexuality is as fundamental as you presume. It is, of course, strongly bound up with our natural urges, but how you wield or understand those urges can be malleable.
For example, in ancient Greece it was ordinary for men of a certain social class to have sexual relationships with other men and boys. In exchange for tuition and initiation into higher social circles, younger men and boys would have sex with older men. Sex and sexuality was understood as a thing best appreciated, and shared, by men. Sexual roles were not defined by gender, but by social hierarchy. If, as you say, sex is something primal and a matter of essential nature, then how is it that many ancient Greek men were bisexual as a matter of convention? Were they mutants of some kind, or were they all just living a collective lie?
@LuckyCharms Said
I believe love and sexuality can be quite different. Emotions and animal attraction don't operate on the same level.
In any event, I don't believe that someone can just switch their sexual orientation.
In the case here, I think you have a gal that is very insecure and is desperately seeking approval and this other person took advantage of this weakness.
In this case, I don't think we have nearly enough information to come to that kind of conclusion. And since someone is asking for personal advice, I think we should be careful with whatever conclusions we come to and not be rash in our assertions.
I personally think that sexuality is very strongly linked to our natural constitution. But I also think that many aspects of our natural constitution are interpreted differently by different people and they wildly underdetermine our actual behaviour and thought. Even sexuality can be consciously - and freely - re-defined.