@HandsomeLunatic Said
Kind of. She worries about her family's well-being (which is understandable considering how hard her mom's life is). She pretty much wants to help them no matter what, and I don't know how much she wants to give them monthly and for how long. When I have this job, I'll be making more than what her family makes total, and she already gives her family money when we're tight. She's also more willing to give things up for her family than a typical American in part because she comes from a collectivist culture and that's somewhat expected. I largely want to move out because my psychologist recommended it, but I originally wanted to move out to make her happier.
My "concern" wasn't so much that she wants to take care of her family (that's an admirable trait) or whether or not she's willing to give things up.
The part that had jumped out at me was the part about moving out of your parent's. You want her to be happier and your psychologist recommended it. The way that you phrased it makes it sound like your wife does not care whether you live with your parents are not. While that sounds nice like, "Oh, I don't mind if we have to live with your parents as long as I get to be with you..." this sounds more like, "I am going to do this and I don't care if we have to live with your parents (even though it's better for you, husband, if you
don't ) because the rest of my family means more to me than you do."
I'm relatively sure I'm just reading that into your text and you didn't really say that or mean that...it's just what occurred to me.
Either way, it doesn't really matter because you're here for money questions, not relationship questions.
Just make sure you're absolutely in agreement about whose money goes where and why. Put it in writing.