Would this be breaking the "Girl Code"?

So, there's this guy named Craig that I met at this party.
I've been talking to him for a month, and I really, really like him. (We've just been flirting.)

The problem is that he has a girlfriend named Lauren, who coincidentally happens to be this girl that I used to go to school with from like the 5th grade until 12th grade. I mean, Lauren and I were never best friends, but we were cool and always got along all the time.

Craig says that he's going to break up with her..he just doesn't know how he's going to do it because she's claims to really love him, and he doesn't want to break her heart.

I just don't know what to do. She's nice. I feel like I'd be backstabbing her. But then..he's just one in a million. We click, and people say I light up when I talk about him. I get butterflies when I'm around him.

What should I do?

Unless he's single, leave it alone.

Well, I was going to reply with the first thing that came to mind but that has been getting me in trouble a lot lately.

If Craig really doesn't care enough for the person that he's with to stay with her, then he should free her up for someone else whom would never want to lose her.

And geesh, all these girls fighting over guys threads - this concept is entirely alien to me seeing as I grew up in a state that was comprised of 75% men.

remember the old saying ...

what someone does with someone else will do to you.


people can arguue it all they want but its true.

Im willing to bet he was the same way with her as he is to you and if he is truly going to break it off or not makes you wonder in the future when he sees someone else ohh like another you while your with him and he tells her the same thing that hes telling you about this other girl.

I'm not really fighting over him.
But yeah, that is true.

Ahhhhhhhhhhhh. I really don't know what to do.

You knew he was with someone and you still went for him?

He is with someone and yet 'flirts' with you?

All new flirtations give butterflies and light us up...

Do what you think is right. On your head be it.

That's exactly what I was thinking.
If he's talking to me and flirting with me and he's still with her...and then he tells me one thing about them not working out and him breaking up with her. I feel like the "other woman".

I don't think it's right at all, but I just can't help but have feelings for him. And when I'm around him or talking to him...it's kind of hard to not flirt.

It's not like I'm saying "Yeah, I'm going to take her man. He's going to be mine".

It's just that when I'm with him I don't think about her at all because he's with me.
But then when I think about it...I just feel so guilty.

If he's reciprocated and mentioned considering jumping ship, then he isn't doing his current sweety any favors by remaining with her because the whole time she's thinking that she's found endless love, he's singing to himself "And if you can't be with the one you desperately love, honey, fakingly settle for the one you're with."

Look he might feel nice and give you all the glitz and glammer inside and his words might sparkle your ears, he might show his "softness" and "caring" but if you really think about why be the other girl. Your not going to change him. Im not saying hes a a** and things im just saying give yourself someone who doesnt have baggage of a recent ex and isnt going put you in drama, Which you know there will be.

Step up for you and make choices for you not cause he holds a hersey chocolate bar and it ravishes your sweet tooth.

I'm not condemning. This could be the best thing EFAR.

The thing is... he will have to decide. It sounds like you and he had the talk and he is stalling?

That's true.
But then again, I kind of see why he hasn't done it yet.

Yeah, that's true.
There will be a lot of drama that would come with him being with me.
Especially because some of her best friends are some of my best friends and good friends.
This is terrible.

Why wouldn't you do it yet?

She's a safety net?
It's only been a month~ too soon?

Yes.
I mean, I understand why he is but..then again..idk.
She says that she's in love with him and he says he doesn't want to break her heart.
I mean it makes sense..I think, but I kind of feel like a fool.