Women/Teens Broad Casting their Realtionship Fallouts..

@Jennifer1984 Said

I think a lot of what you say is true, although I have to say that you come across to me as quite angry and that could lead you open to assumptions from some posters.

We, as women, are often our own worst enemy, but it's not our fault. Yes, we ARE emotional. Yes, we DO vent our frustrations. And, yes, sometimes we do fall for the same old lines of chat over and over.

But would we really want to change that aspect of ourselves..? Do we want to stop being "women" because of how we are treated by men..? I don't think so. Rather, what we need to change is how we respond to those occasions when we are treated badly.

A broken relationship, or staying in one that is abusive or unfaithful is an emotional strain that I think a lot of men find difficult to understand. Some men are able to comprehend the complexity of female emotional states, but for most, they are so deeply ingrained in the masculine macho attitude of not letting their own feelings show that the mere thought of a woman opening her heart makes her seem, in his eyes, weak and feeble.

When such a man perceives a woman to be weak, she is contemptible in his eyes. He'll use her for sex or anything else he wants, but he won't respect her and he won't be faithful or honest to her.

The women who vent on Twitter and Facebook are often only doing so because they feel there is nowhere else for them to get things off their chest. If they don't have a close friend or sister or mum who can be their "confidante" they may turn to the supposed, but false, anonymity of social networking sites. I don't think these women are being pathetic, they are making a cry for help. They have a need to communicate what they are going through and as an act of desperation they do something that is inappropriate but to them, doesn't seem that way.

So, what should she do..? Should she hide her feelings..? Bury them deep down inside and not release anything..? I don't think so. Why should she be repressed just because he is incapable of understanding her?

Of course, we would all love to have somebody to turn to, to make the tea, lend a listening ear and give out hugs and tissues. If all the women in the world had that option, Facebook and Twitter traffic would probably decline alarmingly and throw advertisers into a state of mortal panic.

But many women DON'T have that option and this is when they have to be strong. Easier said than done, I know, but I think we need to get that message out.

Women are NOT weak and feeble. We will express our feelings and men have two choices: Accept it, learn to live with it and start to show some sensitivity to their partner, or they should seriously start to reconsider their place in this relationship.

I think it goes without saying that any woman in a physically or mentally abusive relationship should seek professional help. Possibly even take police and / or legal action. There is plenty of support and advice out there, and plenty of women's groups who will help them. Women: You are not alone.

But the message has to be spread. Those of us who are fortunate enough to be in strong, loving relationships, or have good people in our lives with whom we can share our feelings, might like to take the time to make ourselves available to other women whom we might be able to help.

Solidarity, sisters..!! (cliche spoken tongue in cheek, but that's what it amounts to)

To any woman out there who reads this and is going through difficult times, please don't despair. You don't have to put up with being abused or denigrated for your feelings. Please don't think you have to pour your heart out into the world wide web. All that does is demean you further.

If you have somebody in your life who you trust and feel safe with, talk to them. If you don't, then seek help from professional groups. They're there for YOU.

Best wishes and good luck, women. Stay strong.

@treebee Said

Facebook and Twitter and modern day platforms.

People write things on there without really thinking very much about it.

In the old days if something happened or someone said something to you or your boyfriend split up with you generally you would have to wait until you saw your friends or until you could phone them to discuss it all. By which time you would have had time to rationalise a lot of things in your head and filter out the unimportant information.


Now we have a medium to write whatever the f*** we like as we think about it.

So really whatever is posted on sites like this, facebook, t***ter etc. should always be taken with a pinch of salt.

@chisa96 Said

Hmm. So is the op more annoyed about the women who fall out and get back together with guys that walk all over them, or with that they post about it too much?

@sTreetAngeL Said

I didn't read the entire OP; but...you say "you've learned from your experiences; and that also, you yourself have went down the same road in the past."

As seemingly stupid as these girls may be, they too are learning.

We all need an outlet when we are hurting; and for some, that might be the only way, literally...but at least they are getting it out of their systems..I feel.

And for the record; although we learn, and hopefully do get wiser as time goes on. We are ALL stupid when it comes to matters of the heart...
If you are able to think and act completely with your head, then I doubt your heart is in it in the first place. (and I mean 'you' as a figure of speech; not you personally).

@Jesswaa Said

Usually.. from my fb friends, it's easier just to block them and their posts then give two seconds to think about it!
I block the immediately if they have cries over stuff that a) the guy/girl wouldn't want them ranting about b) something I don't really want to know about and c) something that they'll regret posting if the wrong person reads it...

I don't think it is about being treated right, it's about knowing what your willing to 'settle' for etc.. If you settle for a jackass.. Prepare to be treating that way

@townie_guy Said


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@Electric_Banana Said

Men are easily replaceable commodities - girls prove that to us all the time.