Ok Im not taking shots at anyone or Judging anyone.. Im sharing this in hopes to strengthen and open some minds of women and the reality to what it is...
On Face Book twitter and other sites period women and teens are constantly posting thier constant break up and make ups to the point thier own friends and family hate to see you hurt but tired of you constantly complaning about it yet take no action to make it right..
We as women are over emotional some more then others and and although venting is healthy its how we vent that is the problem.. I went thru the same phase of heartbreak and weakness in my past.. I use to post my personal problems to vent and plead my ex to change pour my heart out blah blah blah. In reality ppl don't need to know your suffering it just attracts Negative energy and shows how pathetic weak & stupid at least thats how others look at it... Because one minute you post your so in love your perfect the next day you post how he cheated AGAIN then the next you're happily in love like nothing had ever happen....
But I learned alot from my experiences, one thing I learned is to know my worth, WTH am I going to beg a man to be with me who doesn't want me at that a man who ain't worth s*** to lose in the first place... Some women/teens go thru hell with their partners cause we chose to believe the fantasy of happiness they sell but deep inside we know whats real.. The times I've suffer Its cause I chose to stay and believed that b.s. knowing deep inside it was lies...
We all want to believe this time its different this time hes changing the change is for some weeks maybe 3 months and back to the same ish...
Its not about playing hard to get thats just pointless too its about putting your foot down and knowing what you deserve.... If you constantly show how weak your love is for him and regaurdless you'll forgive him its obvious he will continue... Its easier said then done but its possible love never killed anyone but phycos... LEARN LOVE YOURSELF FIRST OTHER WISE YOU CAN'T EXPECT SOMEONE ELSE TO...
Moral is stop blaming the man for your suffering he might be a piece of s*** but you the one who continues to allow that piece of s*** to hurt you time and time again... Know that you are beautiful and a man should feel lucky to have a woman like you and if he doesn't appreciate you then hes not worth your time thier too many fish in the sea....
MEN - I KNOW WOMEN AREN'T PERFECT BUT THIER ARE GOOD WOMEN OUT THIER WHO DESERVED TO BE TREATED RIGHT....
I think a lot of what you say is true, although I have to say that you come across to me as quite angry and that could lead you open to assumptions from some posters.
We, as women, are often our own worst enemy, but it's not our fault. Yes, we ARE emotional. Yes, we DO vent our frustrations. And, yes, sometimes we do fall for the same old lines of chat over and over.
But would we really want to change that aspect of ourselves..? Do we want to stop being "women" because of how we are treated by men..? I don't think so. Rather, what we need to change is how we respond to those occasions when we are treated badly.
A broken relationship, or staying in one that is abusive or unfaithful is an emotional strain that I think a lot of men find difficult to understand. Some men are able to comprehend the complexity of female emotional states, but for most, they are so deeply ingrained in the masculine macho attitude of not letting their own feelings show that the mere thought of a woman opening her heart makes her seem, in his eyes, weak and feeble.
When such a man perceives a woman to be weak, she is contemptible in his eyes. He'll use her for sex or anything else he wants, but he won't respect her and he won't be faithful or honest to her.
The women who vent on Twitter and Facebook are often only doing so because they feel there is nowhere else for them to get things off their chest. If they don't have a close friend or sister or mum who can be their "confidante" they may turn to the supposed, but false, anonymity of social networking sites. I don't think these women are being pathetic, they are making a cry for help. They have a need to communicate what they are going through and as an act of desperation they do something that is inappropriate but to them, doesn't seem that way.
So, what should she do..? Should she hide her feelings..? Bury them deep down inside and not release anything..? I don't think so. Why should she be repressed just because he is incapable of understanding her?
Of course, we would all love to have somebody to turn to, to make the tea, lend a listening ear and give out hugs and tissues. If all the women in the world had that option, Facebook and Twitter traffic would probably decline alarmingly and throw advertisers into a state of mortal panic.
But many women DON'T have that option and this is when they have to be strong. Easier said than done, I know, but I think we need to get that message out.
Women are NOT weak and feeble. We will express our feelings and men have two choices: Accept it, learn to live with it and start to show some sensitivity to their partner, or they should seriously start to reconsider their place in this relationship.
I think it goes without saying that any woman in a physically or mentally abusive relationship should seek professional help. Possibly even take police and / or legal action. There is plenty of support and advice out there, and plenty of women's groups who will help them. Women: You are not alone.
But the message has to be spread. Those of us who are fortunate enough to be in strong, loving relationships, or have good people in our lives with whom we can share our feelings, might like to take the time to make ourselves available to other women whom we might be able to help.
Solidarity, sisters..!! (cliche spoken tongue in cheek, but that's what it amounts to)
To any woman out there who reads this and is going through difficult times, please don't despair. You don't have to put up with being abused or denigrated for your feelings. Please don't think you have to pour your heart out into the world wide web. All that does is demean you further.
If you have somebody in your life who you trust and feel safe with, talk to them. If you don't, then seek help from professional groups. They're there for YOU.
Best wishes and good luck, women. Stay strong.