@offbeat Said
How you can't see that using the term 'individuals with a cervix' isn't potentially upsetting for women without a cervix shows a deep level of insensitivity on your part.I noticed also that you asked me a question and then supplied the answer yourself, as if you know what is in the minds of others. Are you also a mind reader? And no, i'm not claiming victimhood, just merely pointing out how angry and aggressively you come across. You're so certain that all women agree with your interpretation. It's almost as if you have a dictatorial nature. Do you? ... And what do you say about that female politician liking that tweet, you know, the one that said 'do you mean women?' It would appear that there is at least one woman who disagrees with you.Should i take your advice about listening to women by listening to her, or should i just listen to you?
You can listen to anybody you like. Speaking for myself, I'm not at all flattered by the thought of having you for an audience.
I could turn this around and ask you why you find using "Individuals without a cervix" so offensive. It's a form of language that takes into account the sensitivities of women who DON'T have a cervix and in my experience, it's something that the vast, overwhelming majority of women don't have a problem with.
You see...…… we've kinda got an understanding about our girlyworks. We grow these lumpy things that you seem to be so fascinated with and we have to carry them around all our adult lives. We have to wear "boulder holders" to keep them constrained... that are notoriously difficult to get a good fit for, are often very uncomfortable.... that make us sweat..... and are bloody expensive. We understand this.
All you see is a pair of tits.
Likewise, we have to endure a monthly cycle that can be irregular, awkward, sometimes embarrassing, often painful, and even messy. It doesn't always happen when it should and it can make us irascible, bad tempered, unpredictable, tearful, depressed and in some cases, violent.
All you do is complain that "She's on the soddin' rag again."
Now... we live with this as best we can and all the time our bodies do what they're supposed to do, we get along with it. It's part of our femininity. In many ways, it defines our gender, and we're all in it together. It's not a case of "poor me" because the girl sitting next to you on the bus goes through exactly the same.
It makes us empathetic towards each other. We feel our fellow woman's pain in a very literal way. Men don't understand this because blood doesn't pour out of any of your bodily orifices every 28 days. Get the message...?
And then something goes wrong. A difficult birth, or cervical cancer... two things men will never experience and have no understanding of, much less any empathy for.
To remove a woman's uterus is a life experience that can be traumatic beyond belief. It goes to the very core of the meaning of "femininity". And it is quite clear that it is completely beyond your ability to comprehend.
But we're not scaredy cats about this. When it happens, we recognise it and learn to cope with it, but at the same time, we want it to be referred to in sensitive terms. Call it touchy-feely if you like, but it's how we're wired.
Now... you have to understand how some things can be perceived. To use the word "woman" when referring to a woman who doesn't feel like a woman any more because she has lost those organs that, to her, define her womanhood, can be traumatic. It's personal. It matters.
And so an alternative form of address is used. And mostly, we're comfortable with that.
And you... in your masculine way, with not the faintest idea of how women might feel, and if you did, you wouldn't care, burst straight into print telling women what terminology we should be allowed to use.
And then you wonder why women get irritated at you.
It is not for men to tell women how they can address entirely feminine issues. Leave it to us. Unless you're a medical professional, suitably qualified and are genuinely trying to help in a constructive way, We'll get along fine without your linguistic input.