@Jennifer1984 Said
Hmmm.
On the surface of it, I would generally be in agreement with the consensus on here. She should pay for her own babysitter. The child is hers and it's her responsibility. It really is expecting too much to demand that her date pay the babysitter.
However.
We don't know this woman's circumstances. Think about it for a moment, people..... She's a single mother, very possibly on a limited income.
It could be that she hasn't been out in some considerable time because she can't afford to. Put yourself in that position... you're a single mother in a life of drudgery which focuses solely on caring for a child... you haven't been out in goodness knows how long. Very possibly, the cost of a babysitter could be the difference between eating and not eating tomorrow.
The simple thing would be to not go on the date... but it's been soooooooooo long. The need to just get out for one lousy night is too much, and in that situation, a woman could be tempted to brazen it out and get him to pay for the sitter too.
OK... that is a theoretical scenario, but it's a plausible one. We are all being very judgemental, whilst in possession of only one side of the story.
There are always two sides to every story.
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She is actually a friend of mine, she is in no way struggling for money or in a position not to be able to afford a sitter. As I mentioned in other posts, she hires a sitter whenever she goes out to movies etc with her friends. She even said she would not have taken his money for the sitter but he should have offered.
As mentioned, she is old fashioned and thinks men ought to be paying for dates and she was brought up this way. Times have changed but was out of dating world and did not see it.
The only reason it has been awhile since she dated is because the divorce was hard on her and her children.