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Mysteria On May 19, 2014
I Am Rogue!





A Small Town, Texas
#1New Post! Jun 06, 2011 @ 21:06:43
What does verbal abuse mean to YOU? Do you believe that in order to be a victim of verbal abuse, one has to be called names?

In my opinion, a person can be verbally abused with or without name calling.
Electric_Banana On August 02, 2020




, New Zealand
#2New Post! Jun 06, 2011 @ 21:13:19
I consider it whatever is going to get my goat enough to trigger me to respond negatively in retaliation.

If in person, I disengage the relationship, if over the net I just simply block.
howmuchisthatdoggie On January 09, 2013




, United Kingdom
#3New Post! Jun 06, 2011 @ 21:20:37
Is it "verbal" if it's over the internet.?? Maybe that would be "textual assault" {boom-boom}
floydgirrl On May 03, 2019
Stalkee





Pope's Wine Celler, Holy See (
#4New Post! Jun 06, 2011 @ 21:22:54
I think anything said that could make someone else feel bad would be some form of vverbal abuse. So yes name calling, but are you thinking maybe mind games or something else to make the victim feel a loss of self worth?
Wellard On April 29, 2012
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In your Mind, Cape Verde
#5New Post! Jun 06, 2011 @ 21:41:58
How about non-verbal abuse? someone intentionally ignoring another i.e partner,work collegues ect..
Erimitus On about 21 hours ago




The mind of God, Antarctica
#6New Post! Jun 06, 2011 @ 21:56:08
@Wellard Said

How about non-verbal abuse? someone intentionally ignoring another i.e partner,work collegues ect..



I would call that passive aggressive
DiscordTiger On about 6 hours ago
The Queen of Random

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Emerald City, United States (g
#7New Post! Jun 06, 2011 @ 21:57:37
I think you can verbally abuse or attack someone without actually name calling, name calling is just a way of doing it.

As far as I feel, somethings that bother others don't bother me all, like water off a ducks back. But depending on the source something otherwise "not that bad" can sure sting a lot.
GSnap On March 02, 2019




Over the Rainbow,
#8New Post! Jun 06, 2011 @ 22:01:05
@Wellard Said

How about non-verbal abuse? someone intentionally ignoring another i.e partner,work collegues ect..



I think that would fall under the category of 'emotional abuse' vs verbal.

Also to answer Mysteria's question, yes I think verbal abuse can be present without actual name calling...belittling someone doesn't have to be in the form of name calling bu is abusive. But if it isn't spoken words, then it is more 'emotional abuse' than verbal I would think...but is just a matter of semantics.
Erimitus On about 21 hours ago




The mind of God, Antarctica
#9New Post! Jun 06, 2011 @ 23:10:41
Why do some people call other people offensive names?
Straightup On November 25, 2011




, United Kingdom
#10New Post! Jun 06, 2011 @ 23:25:18
@floYdgIrrl Said

I think anything said that could make someone else feel bad would be some form of vverbal abuse. So yes name calling, but are you thinking maybe mind games or something else to make the victim feel a loss of self worth?



Werbal abuse
floydgirrl On May 03, 2019
Stalkee





Pope's Wine Celler, Holy See (
#11New Post! Jun 06, 2011 @ 23:28:27
@Straightup Said

Werbal abuse



heaven forbid someone make a typo and not fix it. the horror.
Mysteria On May 19, 2014
I Am Rogue!





A Small Town, Texas
#12New Post! Jun 07, 2011 @ 01:24:22
@floYdgIrrl Said

I think anything said that could make someone else feel bad would be some form of vverbal abuse. So yes name calling, but are you thinking maybe mind games or something else to make the victim feel a loss of self worth?


Yes, I couldn't think of an appropriate title for this thread, but I'm being verbally and emotionally abused, threatened (which I consider manipulation/emotional blackmail), and neglected. It's never-ending and I can't take it anymore. My self-esteem is almost nonexistent.

@Wellard Said

How about non-verbal abuse? someone intentionally ignoring another i.e partner,work collegues ect..



Sometimes that hurts just as much. The silent treatment. It's as if I'm not worth being spoken to. I despise power struggles.
floydgirrl On May 03, 2019
Stalkee





Pope's Wine Celler, Holy See (
#13New Post! Jun 07, 2011 @ 01:29:57
@Mysteria Said

Yes, I couldn't think of an appropriate title for this thread, but I'm being verbally and emotionally abused, threatened (which I consider manipulation/emotional blackmail), and neglected. It's never-ending and I can't take it anymore. My self-esteem is almost nonexistent.



You need to get help and try to remove yourself from the person/people doing this to you. It's not right and do what you can to get out.
Electric_Banana On August 02, 2020




, New Zealand
#14New Post! Jun 07, 2011 @ 02:06:42
@Wellard Said

How about non-verbal abuse? someone intentionally ignoring another i.e partner,work collegues ect..



At work it is only a problem if communication with them is critical to the job.

With a partner? Let's just say that most of us guys prefer the 'Silent Treatment' over the 'Unsilent Treatment.'
Jennifer1984 On about 2 hours ago
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Penzance, United Kingdom
#15New Post! Jun 07, 2011 @ 05:22:07
Verbal abuse is anything the receiver personally considers it to be. Negative comments about the content of my posts are fair game, in my opinion. I don't ask that anybody agrees with what I say... in fact, I welcome challenges to my posts provided they are based on the content of the message.

But there are those who seem to think that calling me offensive names is somehow debunking my argument. How ridiculous..!!

I freely admit that I have, at times, acted inappropriately. But I have recognised this fault in myself and am overcoming it. I think we all get upset at times, and say or do things we shouldn't. But these are usually isolated incidents, quickly resolved.

When I see negative comments I look to see who they are coming from. Mostly, negative remarks are one-offs and as such can be shrugged off. Somebody not quite getting the message.... having a bad day... taking personal offence themselves, even. It happens, and mostly I roll with it.

But when it becomes part of a systematic campaign of bullying....attempted intimidation.... an attempt to silence my voice... then that is simply not right.

There are individuals on here who completely lose all reason and objectivity over any issue. Theirs is the abuse of vitriol... anger... loss of self control. They no longer see a message, they simply see every post by the person against whom they hold their grudge as an opportunity to vent their own rage.

I think perhaps they have feelings of inadequacy to cope with criticism. They would like to stop somebody from speaking, but they can't. They would like to be able to remove somebody from the site, but they can't. For all practical purposes, they are totally impotent and therefore they lash out with the only weapon they have. Personal abuse.

Yes, it does irritate me, I admit that. It irritates me, not because they have physically or mentally hurt me in any way, but because they are deflecting discussion away from the subject at hand.

I come here to discuss issues.... that's what the site is for, for goodness sake..!! I don't ask that anyone agrees with me, but I do expect my right to express my opinions.... whatever they may be.... to be respected.

The abusers' kind of thread disruption is something that goes beyond mere abuse of an individual, it is an abuse of the privilege of free speech. On every occasion that such a person does this, he subtly denies everybody their right to discuss the issue at hand, turning it instead into a case of "Everybody look at ME".... "It's all about ME ME ME".... "Me and my anger".... "Me and my inability to cope with the discussion".

I do feel that the moderators and owners of this site don't do enough to eliminate this kind of rage. Personal abuse is against TOS and yet, those responsible for monitoring the behaviour of offenders don't do enough to stop it.

I agree there has to be a level of tolerance.... We are all human and can all get annoyed occasionally. We all react inappropriately at times, but there are some who go too far and yet, seem to get away with it.

In my opinion, the failure of the owners and moderators to respond to excessive anger, intensely targeted at a specific individual over a prolonged period of time is a dereliction of duty to those who only wish to discuss issues..... regardless of what those issues may be, or in respect of whomsoever's country the issues are raised.

As I said earlier.... we all get kranky sometimes and we all say things in the heat of the moment. But overwhelmingly, these are isolated incidents and are usually quickly resolved through reason and common sense between the individuals concerned.

But when it goes too far, then the owners and moderators have a duty to act.

I call upon them to do so.
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