@Jennifer1984 Said
That is a very noble goal and if I thought it were attainable I'd be right there next to you.
Sadly, the world is considerably more down-dirty than that and short of being able to totally insulate oneself from it, I simply strive to look after myself and my family as best I can.
At work and in the company of friends, colleagues, peers and those to whom I have an obligation to conduct myself with certain standards I'm all sweetness and light. You may find that difficult to believe, but it's true.
As we've been doing quotations recently, I'll employ one here. William Shakespeare (Henry V) when given the opportunity to surrender before Agincourt. "Return you to your master and quote me thus. We would not seek a battle as we are, but as we are, we will not shun it."
I don't go looking to pick a fight with anybody, but if there is an issue that has to be dealt with, I won't run away from it."
I don't find you at all pretentious and I enjoy reading your posts. There is much to be learned from them. I guess you're at a stage of life where all the lessons that needed to be learned the hard way have been absorbed and you have the luxury of being able to sit back and observe the world without necessarily having to get involved in the muck and bullets of it anymore.
Seeking enlightenment is a good thing, but if you've ever been spat on in the street outside the nightclub you've just emerged from, you'd understand that enlightenment isn't the name of the game at that moment in time.
When you come out of your house in the morning to find you've had your car and front door spray painted with abuse during the night, it's not easy to think of the person who did it in benign terms.
The sort of people who do these things have to be challenged. They don't understand the 'enlightened approach'. Now, in the instances I mentioned above, my responses were pretty immediate - and lawful, I hasten to add. These weren't the sort of people who listen to reasoned argument. They needed to be made to know they'd done wrong and a quiet, philosophical word wasn't going to do the trick.
As I said - and you agreed - discussion forums are different to the real world, but the mentality of those who have hateful mindsets isn't. The need to challenge these people is just as imperative. It's just done in a different way.
Well, I can waffle on with the best of them (or should I say the "worst" ) I do not see enlightenment as a "goal", I subscribe to the Mahayana Buddhist teaching of "original enlightenment", thus its more a stripping of what we identify as "self" rather than a striving for accomplishment, more
realisation Or in more poetic vein, the journey itself is home.
I am in no way naive, or blind to anything in the world around me. And really, I don't feel I've reached any particular "stage" or absorbed any particular "lesson." Having said that, one thing: - when you see a red hot oven plate you naturally recoil. You know it will burn. Now, there are certain thoughts, ways of thinking, that I KNOW are "suffering". To avoid them is not "love" or "compassion" or any other pseudo ethical stance that I might think "justifies" myself. It is simply self protection. Hatred or whatever can fall away, effortlessly.
"In protecting oneself, one protects others
In protecting others, one protects oneself"
Relationship rather than confrontation.
(Oh, by the way, sitting in Pret A Manger at the moment, having a quiet coffee. Heaven really IS a place on earth....and down to Kent to see my daughter, her hubby, and grandchildren wednesday)