@rosexthorn Said
I take offense to this comment. My son was in a gang when he was in his teens and it was not because of my parenting. He told me that the reason he joined the gang was because of the pressures he was having in and out of school with others of his age. Got held up at gunpoint and made the choice [his choice] to join a gang for some backup. I did not smoke pot, do crack nor was I abusive in any manner.
As for following a teenager around 24/7 is impossible to do and curfews are impossible to enforce if the teen wants to go out period. Getting the police involved only exacerbates all problems as they like many love to blame the parents. Quit giving them scapegoats for their actions and start placing responsibilities on their shoulders and then maybe we'll see some changes from the youth. Until that time why shouldn't they act up if all is going to be put directly on the parent/parents? Generalizations are so easy to make yet are far from facts.
I agree with you, its not always the parents fault and its troublesome to me when people assume its always the parents fault.
I will say more often than not, those who are in gangs do come from broken homes, bad home life and join a gang, among other reasons. There are some however who have excellent parents and mess up, join gangs and commit crimes and nothing the parent does changes their child and these parents try everything.
Not all parents who have children in gangs or committing crimes are bad parents and its a shame all are painted in error by the same brush.