@DivineBeautii Said
I understand kids are going to do things not matter how good a parent is.. but to me its about being open minded and having common sense..
There are parents who cover and make excuses for their teen children its ridiculous...
At a certain age teens have this thing where they think they are adults and know everything.. They believe they grown and can take on the world and everything in their head is so simple..
Example my sister in law:
Shes 16
She has a boyfriend and i personally dont think its ok to have a boyfriend at that age but realisticly speaking they are going to date regardless of what we think
I spoke to my father in law and told him he has to under stand that
but to in force a set of rules.. like ..
Curfew, allowing the boy to come over being under their supervision, not allowing her in his home, and school before anything otherwise in force discipline.. he didnt listen..
So now shes neglecting school
coming home w.e. time she wants. once at 12 am
constantly in his house
and is super disrespectful and say idc what you say im going to do what ever i want.. and as she says she does...
Privileges are bestowed with proven accepted behaviors.
Policies are enforced by restrictions of privileges.
Policies in effect are as following:
1. Grades kept to "B" or better.
2. Homework done right after dinner. Parental help if needed.
3. Room clean at all times.
4. Chores done in a timely manner.
5. Respect elders (parents included) no backtalk.
6. Bedtime a) School nights 9:30pm b) Weekends 10:30pm
Privileges can be any or all of the following:
1. Computer access (other than homework)
2. Cell phone access (after 16 years old) restricted after bedtime
3. Driving privilege at 16 with 3.5 or better GPA
4. Bed time can get later as long as grades aren't affected.
5. Television will be limited no matter what
6. Allowance of $2 per day (can be fined for infractions)
There would be an open dialog between Parents and Children where feelings are discussed and disputes are aired without fear of retaliation. All this is to give the kids a sense of responsibility also a lesson in cause and effect.
J.R.