My friend had a visit from the police this afternoon breaking the news that her husband had been found dead in his car, so far, all that I know is he took an over dose and rigged his car so it would fill up with fumes, I'm still in shock, I went straight to my friends house to offer some comfort as soon as I'd heard, obviously,the family are devastated, he leaves behind a wife, a 20 year old son and a 13 year old daughter.
I've had some people say to me its a very selfish act and some have said how brave to go through with killing himself.
I've never suffered depression nor been in a situation so desperate, that I can claim to have an insight as to what he was going through.
It was only a few days ago that he was in my house chatting to myself and my hubby, I would never have guessed a few days later he would be dead.
It's such a hard thing to come to terms with, how can I best offer my support, I'm so worried for my friend, she's got drinking issues and her hubby seemed to be the sound one of the family, I'm worried she's gonna totally fall apart and the kids will be minus 2 parents.
either she makes or she doesn't, theres nothing really you can do, it's the kids you should become close to........... that's if you really care.
Think about it she is what she is, and what she is going to do has nothing to do with you, but if she had one wish it would be for her kids to be well.
Anywho like I said she is a sum of her mental conditioning and perception now, best leave her to it and focus on conditioning the kids to like you. Even if she doesn't go over the edge she will need help with taking care of the kids, so build a bond and earn a right to be present if only fo the kids.