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BabyRS On February 14, 2015




, Singapore
#1New Post! Apr 19, 2006 @ 14:26:20
He was a 2nd year college student, a member of the school volleyball team, a "cheerful and energetic" boy who did well enough in his studies to take Special Papers.

Yet on 3rd of March this year, the 18-year old jumped to his death. He was convinced that his private parts were 'too small'.

He addressed his fears to his mother earlier on this year, who brought him to see a specialist because she noticed that he may be more worried about this belief than he should be. The specialist convinced him that he was 'normal', and explained that regardless of how the male genitalia looks like... in a state of excitement, it will measure up. He even showed him diagrams to illustrate and drive his point across.

Apparently, that wasn't enough for him. His family noticed that he became increasingly subdued, losing his temper over the slightest thing... and despite stromg emotional support from his mother and girlfriend, he remained stoic in the belief that he had a 'problem', and this made him 'less of a man'.

On March 3, after his routine volleyball practice, he never came home. Leaving a note for his parents, he apologised to them for not being able to take care of them in the future - but he couldn't face his life with what he was 'cursed' with. He also left a letter for his girlfriend, informing her that she should move on because he could never be able to provide for her happiness.

Which made me wonder... what brought about this senseless and tragic loss of a young life? Could it be that communal showering facilities (common after sports) highlighted this 'inadequacy' to him, so much so that he feels inferior? Did this 'unfounded belief' stem from a lack of sexual education? Or could it be that sex education only glosses over the facts of life... walking that fine line between a necessary part of the curriculum and what may be seen as "encouragement"?

Would his fate have been different if he had been born a few years later... and thus could have benefitted from counselling and sex education? (It has been made compulsory for all schools here to have a trained counsellor in the premises and incorporate thrice weekly sex education periods in the timetable as of 5 years ago).

I'm all for sex education being made a necessary addition to the subjects taught in school. As we progress further into the next millenia... there is undoubtedly a change in one generation to the next. The majority of teenagers are going to have pre-marital sex, regardless of how 'wrong' it would be. In the wake of AIDS, STDs and unwanted pregnancies (which has already taken some people unaware because of their ignorance) instead of barring them from the subject of sex in general - why not make them more aware, so that they would be better equipped to handle the situation? It may spark 'curiosity' to some... but with or without sex education, puberty is an age whereby we learn new things about ourselves, and discover more through our curiosity. Keeping them in the dark would just make them more curious, and awareness through other means and ways might mean a whole lot of untruths and fallacies.

I'd prefer to know who my teenage daughter is sleeping with and provide her the necessary protection - taher than to have her doing the deed everywhere else, or be rudely awakened one day by shocking news.
treebee On April 13, 2015
Government Hooker

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London, United Kingdom
#2New Post! Apr 19, 2006 @ 14:29:25
Poor bugger probably had a few stupid comments said to him that never left him alone.

Yeah im sooo for sex education, proper sex education not just the birds and the bees but the problems, the emotions, the consequences should be taught too.
markfox01 On October 23, 2021
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Welshman in Brum.., United Kin
#4New Post! Apr 19, 2006 @ 14:33:57
im so annoyed with myself, i read the same line 3 times..

that guy... i really feel for his family and g/f... but poor guy... treeb i hear ya... that is what is needed...
macky On May 24, 2007

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Thomastown, Ireland
#5New Post! Apr 19, 2006 @ 14:35:17
suicide is a horrible thing to happen,i nearly lost my brother to suicide but for the luck of god i saved him.
There are so many ignorant people out there in this world.Suicide is a major problem here in ireland,especially among young men
markfox01 On October 23, 2021
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Welshman in Brum.., United Kin
#6New Post! Apr 19, 2006 @ 14:38:12
i think you find its on the increase suicide in men... theres so many lifes pressures that most men cant cope with... men leave there problem pile up and up..im guilty of that... then get really stressed about stuff al the time..

I dont think we men are emotional with it, with regards to physical or emotional problems.. women talk men bottle.. its a sad truth IMO..... i know i do...
macky On May 24, 2007

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Thomastown, Ireland
#7New Post! Apr 19, 2006 @ 14:42:10
Thats very true what you say mark,100 percent agree with that
markfox01 On October 23, 2021
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Welshman in Brum.., United Kin
#8New Post! Apr 19, 2006 @ 14:49:12
cheers macky... ive read alot about this these past few months.. the world is changing so much that most men cant keep up, they then pretent they know whats going on... by being a man.. but it pushes them to the limit..

Im not going into detail or specifiy what, but there are problems in this world men have no control over and has killed nearly 500 men a year...


also mens health is an issue IMO as well.... https://mensnewsdaily.com/2006/04/11/womens-health-hoax/
macky On May 24, 2007

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Thomastown, Ireland
#10New Post! Apr 19, 2006 @ 14:54:51
Lets just say i was nearly personally driven too it not so long ago,but thank god i found a way out ,and likewise with my brother
markfox01 On October 23, 2021
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Welshman in Brum.., United Kin
#11New Post! Apr 19, 2006 @ 14:59:35
aaaaawww dude, hope every thing is good... (im not gay its a friendly hug.... :roll
macky On May 24, 2007

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Thomastown, Ireland
#12New Post! Apr 19, 2006 @ 15:02:05

hope so
BabyRS On February 14, 2015




, Singapore
#13New Post! Apr 19, 2006 @ 15:04:50
Just a reminder to all men...

Sometimes it's okay to fall apart. We don't expect you to be strong; sometimes your strengths are more exposed by you being vulnerable. Sometimes you need to fall apart to regroup and stay on track. We all have days when we cannot hold back self-doubt, when we cannot push ourselves any harder, when we cannot stop focusing on fear... when we simply cannot be strong.

There are days when we cannot focus on being 'responsible', when we feel the weight on our shoulders... when we expose our anger, our tiredness, and irritability. Those days are okay.

It's ok to allow yourselves to be human.
andyboyo On November 17, 2007




swansea, United Kingdom
#14New Post! Apr 19, 2006 @ 18:45:29
hhhhmmmmm .....babyrs
why are you trying to remind us of this when statistally its women who fall apart and commit suicide more often than men.
BabyRS On February 14, 2015




, Singapore
#15New Post! Apr 19, 2006 @ 19:03:32
@andyboyo Said
hhhhmmmmm .....babyrs
why are you trying to remind us of this when statistally its women who fall apart and commit suicide more often than men.


I wasn't targeting any gender in particular... suicide due to depression, or for whatever reasons - occur far more than necessary. If most of the reasons that these people (and I reiterate here regardless of men OR women) seek the immediate way can be solved or alleviated, why not?

What I posted is not to highlight the suicide amongst men per se; rather - it's the alarming option some people choose to take to solve a problem.

If it means that less people would end their lives before their time, then I would think all of us would be better off being reminded that we too, can help - either by simply recognising a problem when there is one, education or counselling.

This is not about statistics of who tops the suicide list... rather, I was simply bringing forth the problem as it happens daily, all over the world.
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