Step-parents shouting at you

It's just not right is it?

dont give em a reason

not if they try to take on the roll of your actual parent. but if you do bad and all they doing is looking out for you then its fine i think

step parents seem to think that they deserve the same respect as real or natural parents without ever earning it. they seem to think they have all powerful authurity and control over a kid or kids just because they are married to the real parent,and your right 'it's just not right'




sometimes getting out of bed in the morning 'gives a step parent a reason to treat someone elses kid like crap

I refuse to let my stepdad think that he is my parent.

Haha I didn't!
Do you remember when you were at home and the slightest thing got made into an argument where your mum and dad double teamed you? It's so petter an you know how hard it is to not give them a reason when your living in their space all the time.

Today my brother didn't clean the pots because he was told to 'clear up the table' and in our house that means take the pots to the kitchen as my other brother's job is normally to 'clear up' and he does that and them someone else washes them up. Because of this he didn't realize Dad meant for them to wash up and so he didn't do it. So he shouted and I defended him and because they knew I was right I got double teamed because I'd not done the dishwasher! (which my step mother brought up) It was 10 in the morning and I fail to see how I am supposed to automatically know when it's full seen as I was at work last night and didn't even know it had been used.

My point being my Dad is allowed to be a bit of a prick to me sometimes because let's face it - all parents are. There's no way they can feel in control and not be from time to time. But I think it's something only people with step-parents can really know - it's just not right when they do it. It doesn't feel appropriate.

My dad liked getting married . I had 5 step mothers by the time I was 15 years old. Dad always 'teamed' up with the wife, and when them wives figured that out, life became s*** for my 2 brothers and me.

My brother is a step dad! he doesn't tell his step kids off, if he has an issue, he tells the kids mum and she sorts it, as do the kids tell their mum if thay have issues! it works for them that way! they have a blissful household

Yeah I thought that's how it would be! And it was until she started doing that. They're not even married as well. I don't even know her really we just live in the same house. It feels an attack on you when she does because it's like she's saying she doesn't like you rather than when my dad does it when it's just different. Although tbh he's being a bit of a d*** at the moment and because of her doesn't actually seem to care about us at all anymore. Whenever me and my brother need anything he gets my older step-brother to do it.

This is a first for me,, I had no idea there were mature adult step parents ,, those are some lucky kids .

the kids are older and the mum has high expecations! my brother is the most chilled person on this planet, he also has 4 kids of his own! he is a super dad and a natural comic

From experience unless a child is in harmsway, yelling is pointless. Granted, yelling is a lazy man's way of dealing with children. Once you embarrass or get a child or person's back up, all ears close, nothing good happens. I know many children suffer, but many step parents try their best. I defend no screaming parents, although in an exhausted moment, I'm guilty.

Yeah, I feel similarly about smacking kids. How on earth can it teach people that violence solves no problems if their parents use it for the same thing? It also teaches kids that every time they do something wrong they should be hurt, this promotes self-harm which is something no one wants for their kids.

However I guess shouting is hard not to do. It just annoys me that she did. It wasn't how this was mean to work and she doesn't even know me well enough to judge me like that. Because that's what it feels like.

They probably have a reason, if not buy some ear muffs.