@crazymofo Said
Basically, what it is, is that I have completely forgotten how to communicate like an adult with this girl I like. I've talked to her a fair bit already and I make her laugh like, but I cant help but think she's laughing AT me!! I get the feeling she's interested in what I do have to say but then maybe she's just being friendly. I don't know. Anyway, basically, I'm wondering, what are some good things to say or not say and just exactly how funny should I be? She's nice and she's friendly and usually asks me the questions but obviously I don't want to seem like a total goof (though that's probably likely to happen anyway!!).
And yes, in case you are wondering, it's been a year or so since I last had a girlfriend. I've been focusing so much on getting my life back on track that I have somehow misplaced my "effective communication with females" skill somewhere!!
And it's only at work that I see her.
I'd ask her out for lunch. That way you still have the afternoon to do something else if things go right. Also no presumptuous thought of taking it to the next level as a nighttime date presents itself. Talk about things that are important in your life. Make sure you find something you really like about this girl and let her know about it. Not like "Hey you've got a nice rack!" but more like, "Your hair looks nice today." Try to notice something about her that you know she's into... like the color purple or horses, then get her a small gift that plays into her interest. That will send her a message that you are interested in her.
Bottom line: Take it slow and easy. Just be yourself.
J.R.