Small Town Mouths, and the Damage They Do....

@x_Laura_x Said

I've moved to a city now, but "home" is a small town in the country just outside of London.

Back home, if you say something - expect everyone else to hear it too. Everyone stabs each other in the back. Gossip spreads like wildfire. Words are twisted and friendships are broken - I was a victim of that earlier in the year.

It's f***ing pathetic.

@sister_of_mercy Said

I think being at school can often have the same affect. If you do something stupid then before you know it everyone knows. It definitely makes you a bit paranoid and self conscious if you let it, but sooner or later it makes more sense to just forget about everyone else.

@jacobs Said

It didn't take you long to say it -- but I can tell from your words, that you have been the victim of small town "evil".

I don't understand it. Why do people sit at home in their small little worlds -- and then go out there -- to tear everyone else down?

It puts you to a point where you don't trust the human race. And then you turn into a recluse.

I wish I could start a forum for people who understand this situation, where they only want to talk, and talk about the universe, or the wonderful things of nature, or whatever. Or they could just talk about the puzzling personalities of others they deal with.

God, there are so many others out there -- like me... but like me -- they will not trust, anymore.

@jacobs Said

People who live in large towns will not understand this.
They can do what they want -- but in the end, nobody knows who they are, and they don't care.

In a small town, if you do anything out of line, say anything out of line, mess in any way with the small-town "we have each others' back" culture -- you are immediately ostrasized.

How does it feel to live in a small town -- where everyone knows your business, where you are so inhibited as to what you say or do -- for fear that the mouths will start working against you -- when you have to live there?

I have a couple of friends who are "rebels". Who refuse to be beaten down -- but in the long run, the old gossips and complainers -- always win.

So are you in this situation? Do you understand what I am talking about?

When you go to apply for a job and you already know that so and so's sister worked with so and so's cousin who worked with infamous "Shirley" who says (everyone) is bad -- I mean how do you get out of it? How do you start anew in another town -- withouut all the labels and stereotyping of you?

Does anyone understand what I am talking about?

I came from a town in California where nobody cared what anyone else was doing. And I come to small-town Iowa and I am being beat to hell by these people.

What do you think?

Speak.

@Grasshopper Said

Just a smalltown girl, livin' in a lonelly world!

@jacobs Said

People who live in large towns will not understand this.
They can do what they want -- but in the end, nobody knows who they are, and they don't care.

In a small town, if you do anything out of line, say anything out of line, mess in any way with the small-town "we have each others' back" culture -- you are immediately ostrasized.

How does it feel to live in a small town -- where everyone knows your business, where you are so inhibited as to what you say or do -- for fear that the mouths will start working against you -- when you have to live there?

I have a couple of friends who are "rebels". Who refuse to be beaten down -- but in the long run, the old gossips and complainers -- always win.

So are you in this situation? Do you understand what I am talking about?

When you go to apply for a job and you already know that so and so's sister worked with so and so's cousin who worked with infamous "Shirley" who says (everyone) is bad -- I mean how do you get out of it? How do you start anew in another town -- withouut all the labels and stereotyping of you?

Does anyone understand what I am talking about?

I came from a town in California where nobody cared what anyone else was doing. And I come to small-town Iowa and I am being beat to hell by these people.

What do you think?

Speak.