Siblings

I'm sure you have your reasons for that, but it does make sad reading.

He'd be f***ed. But who knows she may like someone being that dependent upon her. Curious, how's her relationship(s) with men? Is she married to your father? Dating?

Either way, in a sense your brother is the real victim of bad parenting and it's doing him no favors.

Yeah I don't live my sister at all. In fact I just can't be bothered with the whole thing.

You won't even go for your neice?

It is but it's for the best. I wouldn't willingly expose my children to someone like my sister so just because we grew up in the same house doesn't mean that I'd make an exception for her.

I don't need her around and my children certainly don't.

Curious... did your parent(s) play favorites also?

I've never met my niece. It's a REALLY complicated long winded situation but no I won't go for a child I've never met.

However it was looking shakey whether my sister would be allowed to keep her daughter and my husband and I were the first people putting our name down to take care of the child.

Not particularly. It was a different situation as my sister is adopted (before I was conceived) so occasionally they tried to over compensate that. I was also seen as the stable one so was given more freedom and allowances. It was on the whole pretty fair though.

Gotcha. Yeah for all we know she could have some genetic or gestational issue unknown to you guys that just makes her imbalanced.

But I wouldn't worry about it too much if I were you. You seem to have a good handle on it for now. And if in the future the situation changes and the opportunity for a relationship emerges, you can cross that bridge when (and if) you come to it.

She has mental health issues but one of my best friends has the same issues. Difference between my friend and my sister is my friend is a decent person.

Mind you I don't get on with my sister and her husband and haven't spoken to them in years for various reasons.

My brother is clearly the favourite with my parents, and we get on as well as possible considering our age difference. We're very protective of each other actually.

It was like that between my big sister and I. She cussed me out almost everyday of our lives.

So I think it's normal for certain people and under certain circumstances. But what matters is that you know you love your brother, as I knew my big sister loved me despite how she behaved toward me.

There is no such thing as normal! But it's not unheard of for sibling to just never have that connection ... My Mother and Uncle, (her younger brother), being good examples! All she remembers as a child is him just being there ... no special relationship at all. And that's still how she feels to this day! She only ever speaks to him at family get together's, and even then neither of them try to make a conversation ... It's just the way of life Everyone's different!