REASONS FOR CHEATING

I'll agree with this.

I guess if people really want to stay in a relationship with each other and are willing to accept the wrong doings of the other that is up to them. Working on relationships is very hard and it takes time and commitment. I guess I just feel for the person being cheated on because of my own personal experiences.

I respect your opinion and everyone else's.

Well said. As an aside, i believe it is a very poor excuse to ever say that you were unable to control your urges. It's just another way of saying doing what pleases you at a particular point in time simply meant more to you than respecting your partner and the trust they have put in you. It's another way of saying that your pleasure was worth (potentially) causing someone you are meant to care about a great deal of pain. In truth no one can be seduced unless they want to be.

Hmm...I wonder what would hurt more...

"Sorry, I slipped up while I was drunk. Can you please forgive me?"

"Sorry, I found someone much more meaningful to me than you."

I would be hurt more by the slipping up while drunk scenario.
Cheating on someone means you don't really care enough about them anyway.
At least the honest guy cares enough to let you go with some dignity.

Exactly. She has tried to lure him to her but it won't happen because he loves me. He can control himself just like a lot of good people manage, it is a terribly poor excuse for behavior to say it was urges that couldn't be controlled. It'setter to be with the person you love and be faithful than hurt them. Leaving is painful in the long run. Despite the current distance between us we remain faithful to each other

There are reasons for cheating

For example if I am stuck on a level of Sonic the Hedgehog I like to use the Up, Down, Left, Right, A, B, C, Start cheat so I can select any level.

If you love someone (as opposed to love being with them) then you will put them first. Then their happinness is integral to your own and so you wont deliberately do anything to hurt them...and few things hurt as much as being cheated on.

I wish your fella and yourself nothing but the very best.

That si true, there is a distinction between loving somebody, being in love and loving being with them. He does put me first as I put him first and if he is happy, that makes me happy. I also know that when I am happy, so is he too.

thank you for your wishes, we have made plans together for the future and we are both very excited

You are right. There is a world of difference btw loving someone and loving how they 'make' you feel, loving how you feel when you are with them. The problem is that on the surface they look much the same. One however is selfless and uncondtional whilst the other is selfish and therefore conditional.

Its nice to hear you are both so excited about your future together. it sounds to me like that excitement is very much warrented.

I love how he treats me, I lovethat he puts me first, I love that he goes out of his way to do what he can to travel all this way to see me, I love that he is about to leave his family (parents, bro sis etc) and friends to live with me. I love how sensitive he is and understands that sometimes I might be a bit stressed but always love him becuase he is my ideal guy

I love that he is prepared to do what it takes for us to be togerther. I love him for him and think about him all the time, I always look out for little things that would make him smile and will pop a card or a little gift in the post just so he knows that I was thinking of him at the time. I text him at breaks and dinner time so he again gets that he is on my mind. I am such a soft hearted soppy cow! But that is how I am with him

By talking to people that have cheated on their partners the top answer to why they cheat is because they are/were chasing the illusion that the grass is greener on the other side and most found it wasn't but some way too late.

I cheated on my husband (before he was my husband) when I was 17, the reason being that he was abusive at the time and some other boy treated me very well.

Why did you not leave him for being abusive rather than cheat? Especially if you discovered that somebody else would treat you a lot better?

Because it was going to be a one time thing but this girl that liked my husband and knew what I did, told on me and my husband left me for 8 months. After 8 months with that crack head using freak, he asked for us to get back together on his daughter's 1st birthday, we've been inseparable ever since.