@ShadowFast Said
Seriously.... Thank you.... I feel the same way about it. NO EXCUSES!!! make up all the reasons you want... you're still f'd up if you do it... could just leave. WE all get to choose. One of the hardest things for me to do is listen to someone that has cheated and done bad things in relationships talk about their fears of others doing it to them. I have even been the person that the fear has been expressed to. It's not that I don't understand that people can change and learn not to do such things... I just don't get why they had to learn that way in the first place. There are enough example of that silly-ness in movies and media and ...ohhh yeah... people around us...ha... Never-mind... I suppose...
my thoughts...
"To do...is to be O K with all possible outcomes...regardless if thought through or not"
Aye well said mate. I reckon if people simply didnt do (or say) to others things they wouldn't like someone to do (or say) to them then we would have a far healthier society.
Back to cheaters. People who cheat do so because it is what THEY decide. THEY are FREELY making that choice. No one is forcing them to cheat. If they feel they are not getting what they need from the relationship then they have a number of choices;
First up they can simply leave and seek what they feel is missing elsewhere.
Secondly they can simply remain within the relationship and accept that they will not necessarily have all of their 'needs' met, or
thirdly they can discuss with their partner what their concerns are, how they feel and what they think is missing. Depending on their partners reaction they can then as a couple choose to work on the relationship or they can end the relationship...
...But cheaters dont do this. They take the selfish and gutless way out and attempt to have it both ways. They make decisions based purely on what they think will most benefit them and they either dont care or dont even consider how their actions may impact upon others.
People who cheat always do so of their own free will. They are never forced to cheat, they choose to cheat, so to say that anyone else ought to take ANY of the responsibility for their actions, their decisions is a nonesense.