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chisa96 On December 29, 2014
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Out in Nature, Wisconsin
#1New Post! May 12, 2012 @ 16:37:02
So, I don't go to the park to be social. I take my kid to the park so that he can be social and that I can become invisible to him so that I can chill out and read while he runs around all crazy with the other kids. I have zero interest in talking to other parents.

The other day I worked until the afternoon, then took the kid out on the kayak chatting about the birds and turtles and whether or not the billy goats would be on the troll bridge this time, and then the plan was to hang out by the playground afterwards while he played and I read.

It was ruined, and this particular day I was really not in the mood to be bothered.

This other girl comes over, one of those ridiculously nice people, and she starts chatting about the kayak and society and yadda yadda yadda. I really wanted her to go away, but she was too nice to be rude to, and I didn't want to be mean either.

I had my book out and open, replied as shortly as I could without being blatantly rude, and went back into my book after I answered. And still she went on and on. I wanted to say to her, "Look, you're really nice and all, and you seem interesting enough, but I'm just not in the mood to sit here and chat with some random stranger about whether society conditions us to lose interest in childish fun. GO. AWAY."

How do you say that nicely when people don't take a hint or pick up on that you're not into the conversation?
I_Q On May 14, 2012

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Q Continuum, Bahamas
#2New Post! May 12, 2012 @ 16:38:36
Politely state that you are profoundly deaf.
chisa96 On December 29, 2014
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Out in Nature, Wisconsin
#3New Post! May 12, 2012 @ 16:40:47
@I_Q Said

Politely state that you are profoundly deaf.



I suppose I could have just "What?" after everything she said until she stopped trying. That would have been kind of amusing.
I_Q On May 14, 2012

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Q Continuum, Bahamas
#4New Post! May 12, 2012 @ 16:43:10
@chisa96 Said

I suppose I could have just "What?" after everything she said until she stopped trying. That would have been kind of amusing.


Indeed. I find you can turn most things into an amusing episode with a bit of imagination.
sister_of_mercy On March 11, 2015




London, United Kingdom
#5New Post! May 12, 2012 @ 16:47:27
I usually just glare at them until they go away.
chisa96 On December 29, 2014
Supreme Goddess





Out in Nature, Wisconsin
#6New Post! May 12, 2012 @ 16:48:35
@sister_of_mercy Said

I usually just glare at them until they go away.



I'm not sure that counts as nicer, but I don't doubt its effectiveness.
boobagins On August 03, 2013
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Astral Weeks, Florida
#7New Post! May 12, 2012 @ 16:48:52
No polite way without hurting her feelings or leaving an awkward silence in your wake.

I'd just pull out my cellphone and say "Can you excuse me for a second, I need to make a phone call" but I know you, and you don't have a cell phone.

So, I'd pretend that I need to tell my kid something, and get up and do that while then sitting down somewhere else.

If it comes down to it, do a go-away-dance. Just make sure you don't shimmy your chest, that would be a come-hither-dance and you don't want that. Remember unshimmy your chest!
x_Laura_x On February 19, 2020
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Nowhere, United Kingdom
#8New Post! May 12, 2012 @ 16:53:22
sister_of_mercy On March 11, 2015




London, United Kingdom
#9New Post! May 12, 2012 @ 17:08:01
@chisa96 Said

I'm not sure that counts as nicer, but I don't doubt its effectiveness.



More polite than my other methods Not exactly a people person.
Sparklegirl On December 13, 2019
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Cumbria, United Kingdom
#10New Post! May 12, 2012 @ 17:19:48
@x_Laura_x Said




Gotta love how she said 'without me knowing' so its ok if she is aware it will happen
chisa96 On December 29, 2014
Supreme Goddess





Out in Nature, Wisconsin
#11New Post! May 12, 2012 @ 17:29:35
@boobagins Said

No polite way without hurting her feelings or leaving an awkward silence in your wake.

I'd just pull out my cellphone and say "Can you excuse me for a second, I need to make a phone call" but I know you, and you don't have a cell phone.

So, I'd pretend that I need to tell my kid something, and get up and do that while then sitting down somewhere else.

If it comes down to it, do a go-away-dance. Just make sure you don't shimmy your chest, that would be a come-hither-dance and you don't want that. Remember unshimmy your chest!


You're really running with this dance thing, aren't ya? I'm afraid that mine are just too powerful as of now though, and I haven't learned the proper control. Experimenting on others would be a bad idea. I don't want her to have to go away to antartica or something; she wouldn't make it there.

Subtly moving around would have been a good idea though.

(And I didn't actually have my phone on me. )
MAW On October 31, 2012

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Stockport, United Kingdom
#12New Post! May 12, 2012 @ 17:40:56
@chisa96 Said

I'm not sure that counts as nicer, but I don't doubt its effectiveness.



When people glare at me though I normally wink and blow them kisses, that really winds them up.
But not sure how that helps with your situation.
ninozara On April 30, 2020




Cheshire, United Kingdom
#13New Post! May 12, 2012 @ 17:58:49
Just completely ignore them and read your book?

Or learn how to say 'I don't speak English in another language', or just say 'Sorry, no English' in a heavy accent. That would have to be your opening statement though

The other option is to out-annoy them, just start a long monologue about something incredibly boring, and possibly complicated, and don't allow them to respond for about 5 minutes. That should scare them off.
MAW On October 31, 2012

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Stockport, United Kingdom
#14New Post! May 12, 2012 @ 18:00:54
@chisa96 Said

So, I don't go to the park to be social. I take my kid to the park so that he can be social and that I can become invisible to him so that I can chill out and read while he runs around all crazy with the other kids. I have zero interest in talking to other parents.

The other day I worked until the afternoon, then took the kid out on the kayak chatting about the birds and turtles and whether or not the billy goats would be on the troll bridge this time, and then the plan was to hang out by the playground afterwards while he played and I read.

It was ruined, and this particular day I was really not in the mood to be bothered.

This other girl comes over, one of those ridiculously nice people, and she starts chatting about the kayak and society and yadda yadda yadda. I really wanted her to go away, but she was too nice to be rude to, and I didn't want to be mean either.

I had my book out and open, replied as shortly as I could without being blatantly rude, and went back into my book after I answered. And still she went on and on. I wanted to say to her, "Look, you're really nice and all, and you seem interesting enough, but I'm just not in the mood to sit here and chat with some random stranger about whether society conditions us to lose interest in childish fun. GO. AWAY."

How do you say that nicely when people don't take a hint or pick up on that you're not into the conversation?



You just have to bite your lip and tough it out. It is kinda cute though, her enthusiasm and better that people want to interact with you than the opposite.
You just have to take the rough with the smooth, do you really want to be rude to someone so lovely?
ArmourOfGod On September 29, 2013

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, United Kingdom
#15New Post! May 12, 2012 @ 18:01:31
Tell them to F*** Off!
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