Need Advice for a Chronophilia Relationship!

Okay, I'm in a fledgling of a relationship with a older woman who's over 20 years my senior, not to mention she's a mother. Around the time, I wanted to date other girls, but with the type females I like, I didn't want to deal with anymore unrequited crushes. You see, the woman pursued me and I accepted. Also, generally she or others like her are not the primary image of my sexual fantasies, but I want to give her a chance 'cause who knows. Anyhow, her feelings for me have grown rapidly than I think I can bargain for and sometimes she believes that I'll cheat on her or leave her someday. In addition, I don't feel our values, beliefs, and expectations are alike. However, I don't give up or soon and easily. What should I do? Hang on or let go?

It depends,how long have you been with her?

I don't believe you.

It's been like two weeks. Also, we haven't been on a date, yet.

Well,I think you should go on a date first or atleast give it a few more weeks,so you can really get to know her and how she fits with you before you make a decision.That way you won't regret whatever you decide.

So much wisdom for a 14-year-old.

I can't make out if you interested in her or not

If you are as said by Ziptex..get on that date, relax and have fun...if you think it will never go anywhere I think it would be kinder not to persue a relationship

Thanks,I usually get in trouble for analyzing things.

Tis ok to analyse...tis the pits to over analyse though

I do that too,sometimes. My bad.

Seriously, you're smarter than I was when I was 14. In retrospect, my mentality was of a 9-year-old. I didn't know what bisexual meant until I was 17. I know more now, but not enough.

lol Thanks.

Hey, older women know their s***, and they are damned good at it. But their feelings can be hurt real easily just as yours can. If you feel you're in over your head after just 2 weeks, maybe it's time to cut it off and avoid the hurt and humiliation. There's a lot more women out there, and lot of new experiences yet to discover, don't hinder yourself because of your sympathy for a person.


I was a retard when I was 14, I had no clue about the world. This is coming from a professor at the school of hard knocks.

I'll keep that in mind. To be honest, I more into tomboyish white girls in their 20s or 30s. However, I'll give this particular woman a chance 'cause we haven't gone on a date, yet.

I don't know about this, anymore. I think I should at least go on a date with her. However, I don't know if I can take it anymore. I think she's infatuated with me 'cause her sad and lonely. Also, she's not really my type.