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slzein On March 22, 2010




Perth, Australia
#1New Post! Mar 21, 2010 @ 09:17:12
My daughter is now 5 years old but ever since she was 3 she has never wanted to put on a dress all she will wear is pants and shirts. She always said she wanted to be like her dad. Now however she even made her dad cut her hair short and will only wear clothes from the boys section. She also has a fascination with private parts of her dad and other boys. However her dad hides and runs all the time when she walks into the room making a big deal of it. So that could be the reason she is so interested. I am not allowed to tie her up and it is getting quite long now. I have been buying her shorts, pants, shirt etc but by doing this am i making it worse for her? Should i ignore it and hope it goes away? or just force her into dresses? She will play with dolls but is always the "dad" in her role playing games. Do i have a serious problem with her?
Thanks for your help
Straightup On November 25, 2011




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#2New Post! Mar 21, 2010 @ 10:08:05
What is a serious problem to you?

Encourage her to do what makes her happy, nothing more, nothing less..
plebian_angel On April 25, 2012
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#3New Post! Mar 21, 2010 @ 10:10:12
Sounds to me she hero worships her dad. I wouldn't be too concerned with it.
I hated dresses as a girl too and I never wanted to be a boy!
treebee On April 13, 2015
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#4New Post! Mar 21, 2010 @ 10:45:10
I know a little girl who is the same, insists everyone calls her Jack, has her hair cut short and only wears boy clothes. She has even expressed interest in going out with girls.

To be honest you are best to talk to the school nurse or health visitor for advice.
slzein On March 22, 2010




Perth, Australia
#5New Post! Mar 22, 2010 @ 05:07:31
Thanks everyone for replying, it's not a serious problem straight up, i just want her to be happy and don't want to force her to do or wear something she doesn't want to. May talk to a nurse or GP treebee. I too was a tomboy plebian_angel however i can't recall as to what extent. Just found it strange as she doesn't have any brothers as i had. Thanks again
cGobla On March 15, 2018




Polcenigo, Italy
#6New Post! Mar 22, 2010 @ 05:26:34
It is possible that she is/will grow up to be transgender. If that is the case there is nothing you do to change that. If you try to force her into a dress or to be girly it will only lower her self esteem. The best thing to do is to let her express herself how she wants to.
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#7New Post! Mar 22, 2010 @ 05:33:41
@cGobla Said

It is possible that she is/will grow up to be transgender. If that is the case there is nothing you do to change that. If you try to force her into a dress or to be girly it will only lower her self esteem. The best thing to do is to let her express herself how she wants to.



Why do people immediately go to oh the result will mean she is transgender when she is older. We shouldn't even think about that for a girl her age. It seems most likely she is trying to be like her father. I know from stories about my mother, that she was like that when younger and even tried to shave with her fathers razor and ended up with a cut on her face.
cisslybee2012 On January 30, 2013

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Bronx, New York
#8New Post! Jul 03, 2010 @ 20:44:09
@slzein Said

My daughter is now 5 years old but ever since she was 3 she has never wanted to put on a dress all she will wear is pants and shirts. She always said she wanted to be like her dad. Now however she even made her dad cut her hair short and will only wear clothes from the boys section. She also has a fascination with private parts of her dad and other boys. However her dad hides and runs all the time when she walks into the room making a big deal of it. So that could be the reason she is so interested. I am not allowed to tie her up and it is getting quite long now. I have been buying her shorts, pants, shirt etc but by doing this am i making it worse for her? Should i ignore it and hope it goes away? or just force her into dresses? She will play with dolls but is always the "dad" in her role playing games. Do i have a serious problem with her?
Thanks for your help



I don't think your little girl wants to be a boy, and she should be allowed to dress in pants if she wants to, and wear her hair short. But children tend to favor the parent who they perceive as more caring of them. So your baby thinks that her father cares more for her than you do. And that is a problem you need to pay attention to. And it's important to prevent your daughter from chasing boys in any way. Not as in policing or chastisement, but by natural force. The more attention and gentle guidance a girl receives from her mother, the less attention the girl will have on boys.

By nature, males are supposed to pursue females, win them. But human boys are commonly conditioned for girls chasing them, and that's causing problems between men and women in adulthood where men want women who are easy to sleep with but for nothing else.
Eastender On August 13, 2010

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#9New Post! Jul 03, 2010 @ 20:47:36
She might - MIGHT! - be a transexual. Treat it with respect and compassion, coz its basically a person in the wrong sex body if that is what it actually is.

I'd play it cool and give it time and see. Dont 'force' her to do anything.
Eastender On August 13, 2010

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#10New Post! Jul 03, 2010 @ 20:51:49
@GiantSpiderGoat Said

Why do people immediately go to oh the result will mean she is transgender when she is older. We shouldn't even think about that for a girl her age. It seems most likely she is trying to be like her father. I know from stories about my mother, that she was like that when younger and even tried to shave with her fathers razor and ended up with a cut on her face.


She didnt say she would, just could be. Most transgender people know from a very early age. I say give it a bit of time.
boobagins On August 03, 2013
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#11New Post! Jul 03, 2010 @ 20:52:43
I was the same way when I was younger.

Tomboy to the T and why? Because I wanted to be just like my dad.

I would only wear shirts and pants and shorts and would have my hair cut like a boy and even parted to the side like my dad.

She'll grow out of it...let her be. Its not bad...and the whole private parts thing...i think its natural for kids to be curious...you make it where the person hides or makes it a big deal...they'll become even more curious.

Let it run its course...she'll get out of it.

I think I only stopped with my tendencies when my mom scared me. My mom is very religious and she told me that if I didn't wear a dress and grow my hair out then I couldn't go to church.

And me in my little mind got scared. I thought I was going ot be left behind, everyone would go and I wouldn't be allowed to, stuck at home by myself (that scared me) and so I started wearing dresses and and grew my hair out. Worst choice ever...know why, cause my mom after that didn't let me cut my hair for an extremely long time.

Its just a phase...for the most part.
Karma_Junkie On September 18, 2011
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Cheshire, United Kingdom
#12New Post! Jul 03, 2010 @ 20:54:52
My daughter refused to wear dresses because her older brothers didnt have to, she played with her brothers toys and HATED dolls or anything girly, she was the biggest tomboy, she's 18 now and a happy young lady, don't try to see more than there is, let her grow up and don't try to typecast her, she will grow into her own person, my son had a dolls pram and dolls, its no big deal really they are just children emulating what they see their peers doing.
boobagins On August 03, 2013
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Astral Weeks, Florida
#13New Post! Jul 03, 2010 @ 20:55:01
@treebee Said

I know a little girl who is the same, insists everyone calls her Jack, has her hair cut short and only wears boy clothes. She has even expressed interest in going out with girls.

To be honest you are best to talk to the school nurse or health visitor for advice.



Oh I even wanted my parents to call me Ugnesh...which is an Indian boy name that for some god awful reason I absolutely loved when I was younger.

See...sounds like we're alike...except for the going out with girls part. I didn't know the concept of boyfriend/girlfriend when I was that young...boy and girls were friends alike.

And today...even though I'm a tomboy by heart, I love shoes and wearing dresses and skirts. My hair is super long and I wear makeup...yep very tomboyish huh?
Eastender On August 13, 2010

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#14New Post! Jul 03, 2010 @ 20:56:44
@boobagins Said

I was the same way when I was younger.

Tomboy to the T and why? Because I wanted to be just like my dad.

I would only wear shirts and pants and shorts and would have my hair cut like a boy and even parted to the side like my dad.

She'll grow out of it...let her be. Its not bad...and the whole private parts thing...i think its natural for kids to be curious...you make it where the person hides or makes it a big deal...they'll become even more curious.

Let it run its course...she'll get out of it.

I think I only stopped with my tendencies when my mom scared me. My mom is very religious and she told me that if I didn't wear a dress and grow my hair out then I couldn't go to church.

And me in my little mind got scared. I thought I was going ot be left behind, everyone would go and I wouldn't be allowed to, stuck at home by myself (that scared me) and so I started wearing dresses and and grew my hair out. Worst choice ever...know why, cause my mom after that didn't let me cut my hair for an extremely long time.

Its just a phase...for the most part.


Sometimes yes, sometimes no - but religious fear isnt much help either way! lol.
boobagins On August 03, 2013
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Astral Weeks, Florida
#15New Post! Jul 03, 2010 @ 20:59:11
@Eastender Said

Sometimes yes, sometimes no - but religious fear isnt much help either way! lol.



It wasn't religious fear...that was the situation. I was scared of being left home alone by myself while everyone went. When my mom told me that I couldn't come...in my little six year old mind, I thought that meant that everyone else would go except for me.
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