I actually read this and thought...Wow...someone who is considerate of his lovers/wife's needs. I was actually pretty impressed. While I could say that it would be odd, as a woman, to have someone else pick out a lover for me. The husband in this situation seems like the type of man who would involve his wife in the decision making process because he is not only thinking of him self, he is thinking of the satisfaction and happiness of his wife, he just wishes to be involved in the situation, and really, who could blame him.
If i sit here and try to put myself into the husbands place, knowing that i could never satisfy my lover again whom i would WANT to be able to mke happy in every sense of the word, I would like to think that i would be able to make the same decision he is. He knows his wife is not going to be 100% happy without having a decent sex life and she could never have that with him again so he wants to find a way to make that possible for her, without losing her as his wife. I honestly think this is a pretty open, honest and novel way to approach the situation. Instead of feeling sorry for himself, the husband is taking the proactive approach to the situation and I am sure that if the wife had a problem with the situation, she would voice as they appear to be a couple who can talk about anything to eachother! I think its AWESOME!