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carelt1985 On June 25, 2016




Chesterfield, Missouri
#1New Post! Nov 12, 2013 @ 19:08:26
Okay, okay. It's very awkward for me to type this down. Okay, my homosexual feelings recently started creeping back. However, I'm uncomfortable when the attraction is geared toward straight women. Worst, married straight women. The worst...being attracted to my best friend's sister? I thought those feelings died out, years ago. A random lesbian would've been fine. Anyone but her. How can I make this go away? Can I make this go away?
LuckyCharms On July 31, 2021
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#2New Post! Nov 12, 2013 @ 20:49:15
Yes you can.

Don't act on any of these feelings. Just let a few weeks pass. Try not to obsess over it. Distract yourself. Keep busy.

And above all, do NOT act on any of these feelings. She's married and straight. A no-go.
Sparklegirl On December 13, 2019
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Cumbria, United Kingdom
#3New Post! Nov 12, 2013 @ 21:51:28
@LuckyCharms Said

Yes you can.

Don't act on any of these feelings. Just let a few weeks pass. Try not to obsess over it. Distract yourself. Keep busy.

And above all, do NOT act on any of these feelings. She's married and straight. A no-go.



The feelings might not go away but I can only reiterate what has been said here. you know she is off limits so what you need to do is manage your feelings and appropriate your behaviour towards her
chaski On about 20 hours ago
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Tree at Floydgirrl's Window,
#4New Post! Nov 12, 2013 @ 21:51:56
@carelt1985 Said

Okay, my ... feelings are an attraction that is geared toward a married person.


I edited your question, to get down to the core of it....

Let's pretend like there is not a homosexual issue going on for just a moment.

A. Let's say that you have a friend who has a sister..... let's call her Diana.

B. Let's say that Diana is married to a man.... let's call him Scott.

C. Diana and Scott have no negative issues... i.e. they are in love and are happy.

Given this scenario:

Would you consider it reasonable to try to start a sexual relationship with a happily married man?
thequietman On August 29, 2018
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Rusty Bullet Hole, Washington
#5New Post! Nov 12, 2013 @ 21:55:33
carelt1985 On June 25, 2016




Chesterfield, Missouri
#6New Post! Nov 12, 2013 @ 22:10:34
@chaski Said

I edited your question, to get down to the core of it....

Let's pretend like there is not a homosexual issue going on for just a moment.

A. Let's say that you have a friend who has a sister..... let's call her Diana.

B. Let's say that Diana is married to a man.... let's call him Scott.

C. Diana and Scott have no negative issues... i.e. they are in love and are happy.

Given this scenario:

Would you consider it reasonable to try to start a sexual relationship with a happily married man?


Of course, not.
yami On September 11, 2016

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grimsby, United Kingdom
#7New Post! Nov 12, 2013 @ 22:29:50
It's best not to fight these feelings.
chaski On about 20 hours ago
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Tree at Floydgirrl's Window,
#8New Post! Nov 13, 2013 @ 00:12:21
@carelt1985 Said

Of course, not.



So, in the situation you are in, the person is off limits... right?

So, since you do not know her that well in terms of being close friends (unless I missed that point) and she is off limits, it is really just a physical infatuation.
NVIIIX1 On March 14, 2015

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, Georgia
#9New Post! Nov 13, 2013 @ 01:44:06
@carelt1985 Said

Okay, okay. It's very awkward for me to type this down. Okay, my homosexual feelings recently started creeping back. However, I'm uncomfortable when the attraction is geared toward straight women. Worst, married straight women. The worst...being attracted to my best friend's sister? I thought those feelings died out, years ago. A random lesbian would've been fine. Anyone but her. How can I make this go away? Can I make this go away?



Hello friend.

I recommend speaking with a trusted advisor or counselor about this very serious issue.
yami On September 11, 2016

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grimsby, United Kingdom
#10New Post! Nov 13, 2013 @ 08:07:35
@NVIIIX1 Said

Hello friend.

I recommend speaking with a trusted advisor or counselor about this very serious issue.



What for and what makes it a very serious issue?
Hypnotica On October 08, 2023

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Steel City (Sheffield), United
#11New Post! Nov 13, 2013 @ 12:17:34
Unfortunately attraction really is not an option. And people who we cant have always seem more attractive.

Best thing is to find someone else, and forget about this person.
Or do something about it.

Im not gonna preach moral's, not my job.

Its your choice, but just remember, no matter how much fun the drama is, there WILL be consequences. You have to decide if you can live with that.
Hypnotica On October 08, 2023

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Steel City (Sheffield), United
#12New Post! Nov 13, 2013 @ 12:19:27
@NVIIIX1 Said

Hello friend.

I recommend speaking with a trusted advisor or counselor about this very serious issue.


Being attracted to someone isn't a serious issue.
All an advisor or counselor can really say is

"You are attracted to someone, yep you are human."
Hypnotica On October 08, 2023

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Steel City (Sheffield), United
#13New Post! Nov 13, 2013 @ 12:22:06
@chaski Said

I edited your question, to get down to the core of it....

Let's pretend like there is not a homosexual issue going on for just a moment.

A. Let's say that you have a friend who has a sister..... let's call her Diana.

B. Let's say that Diana is married to a man.... let's call him Scott.

C. Diana and Scott have no negative issues... i.e. they are in love and are happy.

Given this scenario:

Would you consider it reasonable to try to start a sexual relationship with a happily married man?


You have just described Pre-selection.

Although I am no longer involved with the seduction community, I know that if you are a bloke with another woman, as you are pre-selected you are more attractive.

Whats more attractive to a woman do you think?

The loner guy by himself, or the guy with a woman hanging off his arm?
NVIIIX1 On March 14, 2015

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, Georgia
#14New Post! Nov 13, 2013 @ 12:54:05
@yami Said

What for and what makes it a very serious issue?



Serious in the sense that her actions could provoke an adulterous relationship.
Hypnotica On October 08, 2023

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Steel City (Sheffield), United
#15New Post! Nov 13, 2013 @ 16:59:50
@NVIIIX1 Said

Serious in the sense that her actions could provoke an adulterous relationship.


She hasnt done anything. SHe just said she is attracted....

I dunno, maybe you can choose who your attracted too. For us humans, it aint that easy.
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