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@1970sgirl Said

Hello. I'm new to this website. After what just happened I had to talk to someone else. There are other friends I could speak with, but, the way things are at my home it's almost impossible to call anyone because my mother would be listening in. She does that with my father's calls, even, business.

What just happened though is getting so ridiculous and I'm wondering if it happens to anyone else, and, if there is anything that can be done to fix it.

First of all, I'm 44 years old and still living at home. My condition is medical that is keeping me from being on my own at this time, however, once it is fixed, I'm out of here!!

My parents just celebrated their anniversary, had the other two children over, and we all spent the weekend together. Everything had to be "perfect", which means, clean, in order, and, of course. everyone had to dress properly.

Of course my parents didn't argue at all (unless they did once they went to bed), and, every morning was a put on - perfect breakfast, the table fixed nice, and so on - this NEVER happens when no one else is here.

As each child left, it slowly got back to normal - this meant, a little more arguing between the two of them, no perfect breakfasts, lunches, dinners, etc. The table slowly got back to its own self which meant, papers piling up, unread mail, and so on.

Once my brother left, it was back to normal, and, no one was really speaking to one another.

This morning really got to me though as I am just so sick of this all. We have two different phone lines in the house - one for my dad's business and the other for home.

My father is sitting in "his chair", watching is news, and looking like he's in another world - eyes not even focused on anything really. My mother is doing her laundry, and then says she's going to sit down for a little bit. Not a problem there with her, but, she'll complain later that she should didn't have time for anything today because she sat down.

The phone rings though. I'm in my room, with a movie on, and, my room is about halfway down the house, which, is about halfway away from both phones. I do not have the receivers in my room as I do not need them.

Anyway, the phone rings. I hear it. Wait. The second ring, third ring, then nothing. No answer even left on the machine. I go out to the living room - my dad is still staring into space. My mother is sitting on the couch with her precious cell phone, and either texting or on Facebook mouthing her political crap. Both phones are about 100 feet away.

I asked them if either one heard the phone - my father says, "Huh, what phone call?" My mother says, "Oh, let the machine get it."

I told them that I would keep both receivers in my room for the day. My mother's like, "Why? Let the machine get it."

Now, my sister is sick, her sons are sick, sister-in-law is sick, all after the weekend - had something to eat that got to us all - I'm even sick. But, who cares if one of them calls and it's more serious than sore throats, throwing up, and loose bowels. They both just need either the t.v. or Facebook.

What can I do to relax myself? Because of my medical condition I cannot drive at this time. We all moved to a new area about 500 miles away from our other house, and, no one has had a chance to socialize than anyone else but family.

I would appreciate any advice anyone can give me.

Thanks so much.