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yashi On September 20, 2011




los angelos, California
#1New Post! Sep 06, 2011 @ 09:22:54
hi everyone,

in all m relationships I have been told that I can't keep any conversation flowing in fun way.though I m caring I have often felt I m boring to my guy.I feel confused what topic to talk on apart from knowing each other.how can I improve or be fun .?pleeeasse Help !!

thanx
Electric_Banana On February 05, 2024




, New Zealand
#2New Post! Sep 06, 2011 @ 10:05:46
@yashi Said

hi everyone,

in all m relationships I have been told that I can't keep any conversation flowing in fun way.though I m caring I have often felt I m boring to my guy.I feel confused what topic to talk on apart from knowing each other.how can I improve or be fun .?pleeeasse Help !!

thanx



That's sweet that you're open enough to ask.

Idealistically when you find the right one you might actually share a silent love and affection for him.

One of my first girlfriends was very quiet, she didn't have much to say and neither did I but we just new we were fond of each other so just sat around cuddling or smooching.

But if you want to stimulate intellect or inspiration so that you're more spontaneous with deep or comical conversation just take the time every now and again to practice by talking to yourself and with enough practice those ideas will start coming to you.

Practising in online forums like this one can help tremendously because it requires you take the time to practice thinking how you want to respond but does not have to be immediate and can be edited.
plebian_angel On April 25, 2012
Intergalactic hussy





a great future,
#3New Post! Sep 06, 2011 @ 10:26:42
What do you talk about currently? What interests do you share and can expose each other to? That helps with conversations.
Sparklegirl On December 13, 2019
LL.M





Cumbria, United Kingdom
#4New Post! Sep 06, 2011 @ 10:29:43
have these boyfriends told you this or is it a worry that you have? if they have told you themselves, perhaps they should bea little more introspective and look at themselves becuase a conversation is a two way thing. as for good conversation tips.... hmmm this can be difficult. im very talkative but i get nervous and tongutied on dates especially early on in the relationship. i suppose the best advice i ciuld give would be to start off by concentrate on him- as it will be his specialist subject im sure he would be happy enough to talk about himself for quite a while which will give you a good insight into him. with this there will be opportunities to talk about your views on the topics. the last date i was on had quite a large portion of conversation concentrated about corporal & capital punishment- i had expressed a view about something before we met up, he brought it up saying how much he agreed with me. of course it was less of a romantic conversation but it is something that evokes strong emotions- is something form the news say, something that you might be happy to spark up a debate about?
Electric_Banana On February 05, 2024




, New Zealand
#5New Post! Sep 06, 2011 @ 10:53:21
I've met a few girls who are short on words and I just think it's adorable that they're giving me attention in the first place.

If she's a sweetheart it is all about what is comfortable for her, not me, because if she's a sweetheart she's not putting me out in any way what so ever and I'm honoured by her company.

So during this period that you're quiet just go find Mr. Lips and do a lot of smoochin' until you become more inspiringly extroverted.
sAeGeSpAeNe On October 05, 2021
Part-time Nidologist





The other Bristol..., Connecti
#6New Post! Sep 06, 2011 @ 10:53:45
@Sparklegirl Said

...the last date i was on had quite a large portion of conversation...



C.J., you say some outstanding things! Have you had your dinner yet?
Sparklegirl On December 13, 2019
LL.M





Cumbria, United Kingdom
#7New Post! Sep 06, 2011 @ 10:57:30
@sAeGeSpAeNe Said

C.J., you say some outstanding things! Have you had your dinner yet?



you know you love what i say! my date dinner was feeding the ducks by the lake with a picnic which i enjoyed immensley. it is however lunh time over here for me at the moment which i am also having
sAeGeSpAeNe On October 05, 2021
Part-time Nidologist





The other Bristol..., Connecti
#8New Post! Sep 06, 2011 @ 11:06:05
@Sparklegirl Said

you know you love what i say! my date dinner was feeding the ducks by the lake with a picnic which i enjoyed immensley. it is however lunh time over here for me at the moment which i am also having



You're right, I get a big kick out of it, especially when I have to let the imagination wander....

Now, as for the OP, I saw where she also was calling into question the domestic duties and/or customs of a husband within a household, suggesting that the acquisition of the male mate would only increase the workload of the female in the relationship. Perhaps the very fact that she poses this theory is a reason for her reluctance or inability in carrying on a conversation with a man....
Sparklegirl On December 13, 2019
LL.M





Cumbria, United Kingdom
#9New Post! Sep 06, 2011 @ 11:12:08
@sAeGeSpAeNe Said

C.J., you say some outstanding things! Have you had your dinner yet?



@sAeGeSpAeNe Said

You're right, I get a big kick out of it, especially when I have to let the imagination wander....


you do make me chortle but the imagination is im verysure more exciting than the truth
sAeGeSpAeNe On October 05, 2021
Part-time Nidologist





The other Bristol..., Connecti
#10New Post! Sep 06, 2011 @ 11:31:38
@Sparklegirl Said

you do make me chortle but the imagination is im verysure more exciting than the truth



Don't chortle with food in your mouth! Wait until after you've swallowed, and taken a sip or two.... Geisha-like gestures while conversing (and eating!) are most pleasing to the usual male participant.
I suspect that Yashi is well aware.
Sparklegirl On December 13, 2019
LL.M





Cumbria, United Kingdom
#11New Post! Sep 06, 2011 @ 14:23:50
@sAeGeSpAeNe Said

Don't chortle with food in your mouth! Wait until after you've swallowed, and taken a sip or two.... Geisha-like gestures while conversing (and eating!) are most pleasing to the usual male participant.
I suspect that Yashi is well aware.



yes i did wait until my mouth was empty- but i was alone at home anyway but i do have a thing for manners as it was the way i was brought up! i do have a 4 foot oil on canvass painting of a geisha in my living room that my dad painted coincidentally
sAeGeSpAeNe On October 05, 2021
Part-time Nidologist





The other Bristol..., Connecti
#12New Post! Sep 06, 2011 @ 15:39:54
@Sparklegirl Said

...i do have a 4 foot oil on canvass painting of a geisha in my living room that my dad painted coincidentally


Do you suppose that it would look any better (or worse), if he had painted it, on purpose?

And,... was there really a Geisha in your living room, or did you just make that part up?
Sparklegirl On December 13, 2019
LL.M





Cumbria, United Kingdom
#13New Post! Sep 06, 2011 @ 15:41:59
@sAeGeSpAeNe Said

Do you suppose that it would look any better (or worse), if he had painted it, on purpose?

And,... was there really a Geisha in your living room, or did you just make that part up?



no coincidence that you say it- he painted that on purpose but i do have that picture here beside me yeah (obviously its the artwork as opposed to an actual geisha!)
sAeGeSpAeNe On October 05, 2021
Part-time Nidologist





The other Bristol..., Connecti
#14New Post! Sep 06, 2011 @ 15:47:52
I certainly hope that Yashi is going to learn by your example!

Where did your dad make contact with a geisha? When I was in high-school, I was so infatuated with a Japanese woman, I'd stop by her shop every day, on the way home from school. We could talk for hours about the most mundane things, but it did not seem to matter, since we both enjoyed each others company.
galastaray On June 08, 2016
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Honey Bucket, Reunion
#15New Post! Sep 06, 2011 @ 15:51:11
A couple that's close enough doesn't always have to talk to communicate.
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