@buzz22 Said
Ive been with my fiance for nearly 2 years now,but recently i feel like i have become attracted to one of his mates,who i have known for 6 years.i dont know if its because hes givin me more attention than my fiance or not but i jus feel like theres something there..
my head jus feels so messed up about this
ARGHHHH!
It's pretty normal to be attracted to other people even if you are in a happy and committed relationship. I'm sure your fiance also finds other women attractive. I guess the issue here is that you've known this guy longer than you've known your fiance (I assume) & it sounds like this attraction has taken you by surprise.
I don't know the guy but if more attention means flirting, I think you should be careful about how you interpret that. You are safe territory to flirt with because this guy knows you are taken. That doesn't mean he isn't a nice guy, but is he fiance material? Is this just basking in attention from someone else, or are you genuinely unhappy with your fiance in some way? Only you would know that.
I think its normal to wonder & also to compare your fiance to other people. If you don't feel he gives you enough attention you should discuss that with him. You're contemplating a life with this guy you are engaged to. Is he the right guy for you? Have you dated enough to be sure about what you want?
Sometimes other people like this do make us question our own relationships. It's not a bad thing, but just make sure you make fair comparisons between these guys. It's unlikely your relationship would feel as new and exciting now as it did when you first got together. You've talked about this friend, but you've not mentioned your fiance at all. There must be something very special about him too, surely?