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carelt1985 On June 25, 2016




Chesterfield, Missouri
#1New Post! Jun 23, 2013 @ 02:30:13
I know it sounds mean, but that's now I feel. I don't like my 15-year-old niece. She's not really a good kid, but I blame my brother for not raising his kid! He has 4 kids by 3 different women. My mom's mainly her guardian, but it hasn't been easy. She indirectly cause my mom to lose her job. She has stolen from her and stores. She does bad at school. She talks like a small and mousy little kid with a mental or learning disability. She smells.

Just, this morning, she apparent stole money from my mom. I wanna drive my niece outta state to Illinois so I can leave her there. I know I sound mean, but I can't get thru to her, anyway. Ever since my momma lost her job and I moved back, I'm the sole breadwinner and it stresses me out. Any comments or suggestions?
EoWyN On April 01, 2015
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#2New Post! Jun 23, 2013 @ 02:43:02
@carelt1985 Said

I know it sounds mean, but that's now I feel. I don't like my 15-year-old niece. She's not really a good kid, but I blame my brother for not raising his kid! He has 4 kids by 3 different women. My mom's mainly her guardian, but it hasn't been easy. She indirectly cause my mom to lose her job. She has stolen from her and stores. She does bad at school. She talks like a small and mousy little kid with a mental or learning disability. She smells.

Just, this morning, she apparent stole money from my mom. I wanna drive my niece outta state to Illinois so I can leave her there. I know I sound mean, but I can't get thru to her, anyway. Ever since my momma lost her job and I moved back, I'm the sole breadwinner and it stresses me out. Any comments or suggestions?


I have been there done that sweetie, funny, I have to face this tomorrow, except mine are 6 and 9!

Relax and breath, remember there are no such things as bad kids just bad parents. she is like this because of her crazy life she is having to live. she has no idea how to deal with it at the moment because she is so angry and lost,Just try to understand. You had a better chance than she did.

Maybe one day she will grow up
Cpat92 On about 8 hours ago
It's all or nothing





Lauderhill, Florida
#3New Post! Jun 23, 2013 @ 04:48:07
Ever tried simply beating her ass? Get a belt and connect it with her butt! I don't give a f*** what people say about whippings anymore! Simple discipline is what it is and it is what half of these young kids need nowadays!
carelt1985 On June 25, 2016




Chesterfield, Missouri
#4New Post! Jun 23, 2013 @ 05:03:37
@Cpat92 Said

Ever tried simply beating her ass? Get a belt and connect it with her butt! I don't give a f*** what people say about whippings anymore! Simple discipline is what it is and it is what half of these young kids need nowadays!


Good idea...I thought about hitting her, but my brother might not like it once he finds out. I can see it...he yells me for hitting his "little girl."

I know I sound cold, but I don't think I care about her. She kinda pisses me off.
carelt1985 On June 25, 2016




Chesterfield, Missouri
#5New Post! Jun 23, 2013 @ 05:05:41
Hold it...what if she sneaks off to tell the cops that I simply hit her, and I'm jailed. Then what?
boxer On June 16, 2016

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#6New Post! Jun 23, 2013 @ 05:30:12
@carelt1985 Said

Hold it...what if she sneaks off to tell the cops that I simply hit her, and I'm jailed. Then what?



Make sure you don't leave marks, and then say she lied.
carelt1985 On June 25, 2016




Chesterfield, Missouri
#7New Post! Jun 23, 2013 @ 05:50:11
One point, my brother was upset with me because I pushed his daughter out the door once, as she was almost late for school. (Note: My niece towers me, standing at 5'4". I'm like 5 feet.)
boobear On August 15, 2016




London, United Kingdom
#8New Post! Jun 23, 2013 @ 09:15:14
Wow.
Silver_Lining On November 29, 2019
RIP Boobie





STOKE-ON-TRENT, United Kingdom
#9New Post! Jun 23, 2013 @ 11:00:09
I was smacked as a child and it did me no harm, however that was by my PARENTS, not my Auntie. I don't think it is your place to smack her, especially as your brother does not agree with it.

She's 15 for crying out loud, how about trying to help her. You say she smells, have you spoken to her about it?

Has anyone just had a simple talk with her? Has she seen a therapist?
Electric_Banana On July 06, 2020




, New Zealand
#10New Post! Jun 23, 2013 @ 11:35:42
@carelt1985 Said

I know it sounds mean, but that's now I feel. I don't like my 15-year-old niece. She's not really a good kid, but I blame my brother for not raising his kid! He has 4 kids by 3 different women. My mom's mainly her guardian, but it hasn't been easy. She indirectly cause my mom to lose her job. She has stolen from her and stores. She does bad at school. She talks like a small and mousy little kid with a mental or learning disability. She smells.

Just, this morning, she apparent stole money from my mom. I wanna drive my niece outta state to Illinois so I can leave her there. I know I sound mean, but I can't get thru to her, anyway. Ever since my momma lost her job and I moved back, I'm the sole breadwinner and it stresses me out. Any comments or suggestions?



Children feel you out when they're very young (yeah - I know "Ha Ha" ). They seem to size up the people around them to figure out who has it in them to put the slap down on them if they get out of hand.

Perhaps your mother, father and you are of the sedate and kind variety of people who only respond harshly to critical instances.

Once a child comes to the assumption that you're nothing to answer too, any time from that point on that you try and correct them they will respond by locking you in an ego battle.

Sounds like your niece has regarded you and your family as much too soft to be anything to worry about. Unfortunately - I can't help with this. The only method with which I know to influence others around me is in hopes that they will appreciate and mimmick my mannerisms.

I mean there's also corporal punishment or scare tactics but I personally don't respect those tactics myself.

You have to be careful though - You don't want your niece to get the impression that she's of no value to anyone - You had posted a thread concerning the issue of suicide awhile back...
carelt1985 On June 25, 2016




Chesterfield, Missouri
#11New Post! Jun 23, 2013 @ 12:58:52
One...if my brother cares, he should take care of her. Two, if I was her, I would hustle on the streets or something to make up for the damage. Not sit comfortably.
Silver_Lining On November 29, 2019
RIP Boobie





STOKE-ON-TRENT, United Kingdom
#12New Post! Jun 23, 2013 @ 13:14:56
@carelt1985 Said

Two, if I was her, I would hustle on the streets or something to make up for the damage. Not sit comfortably.



Hustle on the streets?
Grrrl On June 01, 2014




, United Kingdom
#13New Post! Jun 23, 2013 @ 13:31:40
@Silver_Lining Said

I was smacked as a child and it did me no harm, however that was by my PARENTS, not my Auntie. I don't think it is your place to smack her, especially as your brother does not agree with it.

She's 15 for crying out loud, how about trying to help her. You say she smells, have you spoken to her about it?

Has anyone just had a simple talk with her? Has she seen a therapist?


I agree with all of this.

Studies have also shown that while smacking has a positive/neutral outcome for very young children, once they are over a certain age (I can't 100% remember, but I think it was about 7 or 8) it has very negative effects. 15 is very much over this age!

I'd also say that's not your job as an aunt to like your niece, but it is your job to do your best to be there for her. Therapy or counselling sound like really good ideas to me.
DorkySupergirl On November 02, 2017




, Canada
#14New Post! Jun 23, 2013 @ 13:39:20
@Silver_Lining Said

Hustle on the streets?



Here it means prostitution. Not sure if that is what it means where the OP is.
rosexthorn On July 07, 2020




Winnipeg, Canada
#15New Post! Jun 23, 2013 @ 14:02:28
@Silver_Lining Said

I was smacked as a child and it did me no harm, however that was by my PARENTS, not my Auntie. I don't think it is your place to smack her, especially as your brother does not agree with it.

She's 15 for crying out loud, how about trying to help her. You say she smells, have you spoken to her about it?

Has anyone just had a simple talk with her? Has she seen a therapist?



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