I know it sounds mean, but that's now I feel. I don't like my 15-year-old niece.
She's not really a good kid, but I blame my brother for not raising his kid!
He has 4 kids by 3 different women. My mom's mainly her guardian, but it hasn't been easy. She indirectly cause my mom to lose her job. She has stolen from her and stores. She does bad at school. She talks like a small and mousy little kid with a mental or learning disability. She smells.
Just, this morning, she apparent stole money from my mom. I wanna drive my niece outta state to Illinois so I can leave her there. I know I sound mean, but I can't get thru to her, anyway. Ever since my momma lost her job and I moved back, I'm the sole breadwinner and it stresses me
out. Any comments or suggestions?
Children feel you out when they're very young (yeah - I know "Ha Ha"
). They seem to size up the people around them to figure out who has it in them to put the slap down on them if they get out of hand.
Perhaps your mother, father and you are of the sedate and kind variety of people who only respond harshly to critical instances.
Once a child comes to the assumption that you're nothing to answer too, any time from that point on that you try and correct them they will respond by locking you in an ego battle.
Sounds like your niece has regarded you and your family as much too soft to be anything to worry about. Unfortunately - I can't help with this. The only method with which I know to influence others around me is in hopes that they will appreciate and mimmick my mannerisms.
I mean there's also corporal punishment or scare tactics but I personally don't respect those tactics myself.
You have to be careful though - You don't want your niece to get the impression that she's of no value to anyone - You had posted a thread concerning the issue of suicide awhile back...