@helpisntfree Said
Hello
I'm a bi-sexual male and am worried about how my friends and family would react if I told them I was bi-sexual.
Does anyone have any tips for how to tell them or how I can try and feel them out about how they would react?
Real answers only please, I don't like having to read through petty debates that have naught to do with the topic at hand.
Thanks to any willing to help.
John
Hi John.
I am straight and trying to imagine what I would do if I were bi and wanted the close people in my life to know.
I would hate the lies & sneaking around that invariably goes hand in hand with big secrets. I can tell you that i would make sure I was sure that I was bi before I said anything to anyone. If I was sure, I would tell my friends - they love you for you and if they don't you are better off without them. Trust me, if they turned their back on you for this, they would have turned their back on you any other time your life got hard for you. Bi is no big deal these days and I wouldn't mind betting they already suspect.
As for family? I would be tempted to tell one family member and let the family grapevine take care of the rest. At least then you will know they know, but acceptance and understanding is something very different.
You may find your parents especially, will not understand bisexuality at all. I know how my father would react - "She's either gay or straight, tell her to make her mind up." They may assume it is a phase and it will take some patience on your part to explain that you are equally attracted to both males and females.
the only way to live is honestly, and I hope when and if you decide to tell everyone, it goes well. Wishing you the best of luck.